How do you define success? When you look at your kids and you try to imagine their future… what do you see?
Last week, in my post It’s a Sin to Bore People with the Bible, I shared a little about teaching the Scriptures to our kids in a fun way, and I also shared a link to download another free audio teaching from the NCBP from their book Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining, and Bad Attitudes, In You and Your Kids. This audio teaching was based on raising successful kids by teaching them to be children of honor.
In this teaching you will be able to discern what you as a parent can do to teach honor in your home. It will also hopefully help you to look at your own life to see if you are a man or woman of honor. We as parents need to always ask ourselves, am I displaying the attitude and character that I expect to see in my children. We also need to ask ourselves, is the behavior I keep correcting in my kids merely their reflection of my own example.
We as adults might get frustrated with kids, but sadly it doesn’t take long too see that most kids are just doing what they have not been taught… but caught.
It has only taken two years of children’s ministry to learn this.
I have lost count of the times that I have walked into my children’s kitchen to find that someone has used the dryer or washer and instead of folding the items in there… they dump and pile them up on the counter. Instead of washing and putting away the dishes used, dishes are left dirty in the sink. Instead of returning the stapler borrowed… it’s never seen again. Instead of putting the supplies back where they got them, supplies are left thrown in the floor. Instead of throwing away the empty box, it’s left in the pantry or the fridge. Instead of throwing away something that is broken it’s left sitting out for someone to grab thinking it works and it’s not replaced because no one knows it needs to be. Instead of staying and helping clean up an event mess… it’s left for someone else to do… someone who will do it alone.
So if you are struggling with your children honoring you and honoring others… are they seeing you honor others? How do they see you treat your spouse? How do they see you treat the person checking you out at the department store? How do they see you treat the waiter at the restaurant? How do they see you treat your parents? How do they see you treat them?
If I then, the Lord and the Teacher, washed your feet, you also ought to wash one another’s feet. For I gave you an example that you also should do as I did to you.
I wrote a post several years ago, Honor Follows Honor, as I was reading through the Pursuit of God by AW Tozer. How we honor others and how we honor God will be reflected in our children and in the legacy we leave behind us. Are your children following in the footsteps of honor?
I took these photos several years ago as we were walking down the beach. My husband was walking in front and he had no clue that as he walked our youngest was trying to step her steps in his exact footprints. It so represented the truth of parenting and a father’s role in a child’s life that I had to capture it. If your children were to follow in your exact footprints where would they end up?
Would they become men and women of honor?
You can still get the one hour audio teaching on honor with practical real life examples on how to teach it in your home right here on my website. Just scroll down to the bottom of my last week’s post to Get Honor Audio Teaching.
As you listen to this teaching on honor you will catch some great little nuggets like these:
Just because you have a desire to lecture doesn’t mean your child has a desire to listen… Look for teachable moments.
~ Scott Turansky
Whining and complaining is a kids way of trying to manipulate their parents into doing what they want.
~ Joanne Miller
Like I said those are just a couple of nuggets… there is a whole hour of some great practical parenting tools in there. Take advantage of these free offers!
Now today’s free audio download is from the book Parenting is Heart Work which is actually on special right now through the NCBP if you would like to go ahead and purchase the book. The free audio teaching I am offering today is on teaching your kids to listen to and follow instruction.
To get the free audio teaching just click here: Teaching Kids to Listen and Follow Instructions
This past Monday in our Co-op chapel lesson after I taught a little on Proverbs 6:12-15, I had a little boy come up to me after chapel and let me know that he was really listening to what I was teaching and it made him want to hear more. The greatest encouragements I have ever received have come through the mouths of children… Usually there is no concern for an hidden agenda in their words… they generally say what they mean and mean what they say.
This young boy came up, and as he talked with me about how what I had shared that chapel lesson had made him realize the kind of person he wanted to be, he said something about anger being a very bad sin… with this I had another opportunity to teach him one-on-one about anger and about forgiveness. I relish those mini moments, not just with my own children, but with any child, and really anyone who the Lord allows me the opportunity.
Last week I shared a post that contained an audio teaching on sibling conflict… This is a FREE one hour teaching on teaching your children how to use their anger as a problem identifier not a problem solver. It teaches parents how to teach children and treat them fair but not equal, special according to their individual needs not identical. It teaches parents how to stop becoming a referee, and how to instead become a coach.
Even if your child does not have a sibling they still need these tools. Having siblings is a built in home study in learning how to relate to others that are different, so a child with no sibling receives no practice here… therefore how much more do they need to learn these tools from you so that they will have them for life?
I have listened to this teaching… and I don’t care how good of a parent you think you are or how good you think your children already are… there is info in here that you need to here. We all have room to become better for the glory of God.
You can still find this download here: Resolving Conflict Learning Honor
This week I am offering another free audio teaching from the National Center for Biblical Parenting. This audio download is based on how to make teaching spiritual truths fun for your children and really just for your whole family. They just might even help you learn how to see the great joy and excitement in studying the Word of God in an “out of the box” kind of way.
This audio comes from the Family Time series.
Click here for your free download: spiritualtruths-mp3
In our homeschool co-op this year I am teaching through the book of Proverbs… Next week we will be digging into Proverbs 3:9-10.
Honor the Lord from your wealth
And from the first of all your produce;
So your barns will be filled with plenty
And your vats will overflow with new wine.
As I sat here praying over this lesson and pondering these verses I realized that to grasp the full impact of these two verses of Scripture we have to first look to the verses preceding them. The verses that command us to trust in the Lord, to not lean on our own understanding, and to not be wise in our own eyes- and are directly followed by, it will be healing to your body and refreshment to your bones.
How many of us today are physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually sick due to the stress and worry of money concerns? Are you one of them? Do you constantly worry about financial issues?
In this message I share a little of my family’s testimony and the journey of faith that the Lord took us through… I can recall many times in this journey when I looked at the checkbook and did the calculating and just new that if we tithed we would not be able to make the house payment or electric bill, etc. I recall many times telling God, okay, I am going to trust You to pull through for us… and I am going to write this tithe check. Let me assure you… God has always pulled through.
Granted we said no to lots of other things in order to say yes to Him, but our bills were somehow always paid and our family always had food and we got along just fine on whatever God supplied. He is good.
Maybe this message will encourage you… and inspire you to look at your income and outcome in a different way.
Here’s the message I shared with our co-op on these verse: A Message from Proverbs 3:9-10
Here is a link to the audio of the message that I shared on August 14th at Journey Church in Eva, AL
Here is just a few of the lessons from the Spiritual Gifts Precept Study. I began doing these lessons in the small group setting and chose to stop recording so that those in the class would be able to freely share their hearts during the class without being recorded.
Spiritual Gifts Lesson One, 1 Corinthians 12 : http://shilohchurch.sermon.net/sermonid/2775408/type/audio
Spiritual Gifts Lesson Three, Ephesians 4: http://shilohchurch.sermon.net/sermonid/2794061/type/audio
Spritual Gifts Lesson Four: http://shilohchurch.sermon.net/sermonid/2800238/type/audio
Several of the recording attempts failed… but below are few of the audio recording from the PUP study of Isaiah Part Two. If your connection is good you are able to switch to the video.
Lesson Five, chapters 51 – 53: http://shilohchurch.sermon.net/sermonid/2747347/type/audio
Lesson Six, chapters 54 – 57: http://shilohchurch.sermon.net/sermonid/2753219/type/audio
Lesson Eight, chapters 61 – 63: http://shilohchurch.sermon.net/sermonid/2776431/type/audio (this one has some misses and skips in the beginning)
I taught through the book of Isaiah through Precept Upon Precept last year. Below are some of the links to the video recordings of the lessons.
A PUP study of the book of Isaiah
Lesson One, chapters 1-2 : http://vimeo.com/19127905
Lesson Two, chapters 3-5: http://vimeo.com/19579197
Lesson Three, chapters 6: http://vimeo.com/19733802
Lesson Four, chapters 7 – 9:7: http://vimeo.com/20084246
Lesson Five, chapters 9:8 – 12: http://vimeo.com/20541482
Lesson Six, chapters 13 – 14:27: http://vimeo.com/21097751
Lesson Seven, chapters 14:28-18: http://vimeo.com/21452855
Lesson Eight, chapters 19 – 23: http://vimeo.com/21594995
Lesson Nine, chapters 24 – 25: http://vimeo.com/21953786