The Three P’s of Children’s Ministry

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I sit here this morning reflecting on my current place in service to the Lord… after being asked several times again, “but when do you have time to… ” All I know that I can answer that question with is that God is the author of time… and somehow I manage to have enough time to accomplish everything He calls me to do and if it doesn’t get done that day… it always seems to work out. Usually because He had someone else called to do it and because there was a reason for the delay… so I just live and obey and trust God to deal with the whole time thing. If I ever get focused on the time constraint of 24 hour days I end up in an anxiety attack… so I choose to practice the three P’s of children’s ministry…

And no the three P’s are not puke, pee, and poop…

I have come to realize that Children’s Ministry is a whole new ball game of emotions. It is for me anyway… but I am learning it is indeed also for many others. Which in learning so, it helps me keep things in perspective. Perspective is powerful thing. Perspective and perseverance and patience…

these are the 3 P’s of children’s ministry.

The absolute only way that we can keep things in the right perspective is to stay in the Word of God. The absolute only way we can maintain perseverance in the ministry of the gospel is to stay in the Word of God. The absolute only way we can maintain and continue to learn and practice patience is to stay in the Word of God.

If I didn’t… I just flat out would not be a very nice person at all.

I must stay in the Word of God and pray without ceasing (I suppose I misnamed this post, it should be “the four P’s”) to maintain those three P’s of children’s ministry… and sadly its not usually because of the kids. It actually is only occasionally the kids… and usually when its the kids, its because I am already upset over something that happened previously.

I take nothing more personal than an adult that tells me or my staff they are “not called” to serve or interact with our children. Please understand that I know not everyone is called to teach children on a regular basis, that is indeed a calling, but to be unwilling to serve them for an hour, a few times a year… when the only requirement is to just love on them?

Yes I take that personally… and I think God does as well.

Then He will answer them,

‘Truly I say to you,

to the extent that you did not do it to one of the least of these,

you did not do it to Me.’

Matthew 25:45

 

I take it personally for more reason than one…

The ministry to children, especially the extended care ministry in some way or another blesses every single member of your church family simply by its existence. Whatever amount of time a person sacrifices to serve in this rotation makes an eternal impact.

How you ask?

There is an eternal soul in the body of that little one. An eternal soul that needs Jesus. An eternal soul that needs to see and experience some Jesus with skin on… and there is an eternal soul in there that needs to understand the value of their life and the life of others…

I wonder sometimes if we do not think we will stand before Jesus and give an account for what we did not do?

We spend a lot of time worrying about getting credit and forgiveness for what we did do and have done when we might need to be spending a little more realizing all the opportunities to serve our Savior that we just walked by… ignoring them because well… we did not want to do that.

How else is service to our children an eternal impact?

That eternal soul in that little body, will one day be an eternal soul in a big body… a big body that will most likely be making decisions one day that will affect you and your children and your children’s children greatly. An eternal soul in a big body that will be leading and teaching and running your kids, your grandkids, church, school, business, country…

How else… ?

Think about how many young couples have joined your church, or answered the call of salvation, and made that walk up the center isle, because in that hour they were able to be still and hear God’s voice because they knew their children were being well cared for by someone in extended care… in that very hour.

This girl knows…

How thankful I am as a mother myself… who made that walk over 11 years ago, while my daughter was being taken care of in Extended Teaching Care! Imagine had I had to leave early to change a diaper, or if I had of been distracted with passing out coloring pages, or even worse been embarrassed by my child’s inability to sit still and just left and never came back!

Where would I be today?

God would have still saved me… I have no doubt about that… but would I be serving Him at Shiloh Baptist Church?

So yes, I take it personally. I take it very personally. My GOD is a personal God. Children’s Ministry, every single part of it, is personal and every single person involved is important, from those who serve 4 hours a year, or once a year in VBS, or those who serve every day of their life… this ministry is indeed important and vital to the growth of the Kingdom of God and the church and our nation.

So when things get taken personal… I have to pull out my three P’s of children’s ministry.

My perspective:

For the eyes of the Lord move to and fro throughout the earth that He may strongly support those whose heart is completely His.

2 Chronicels 16:9

But their eyes were prevented from recognizing Him.

Luke 24:16

Then the Pharisees also were asking him again how he received his sight. And he said to them, “He applied clay to my eyes, and I washed, and I see.”

John 9:15

fixing our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of faith, who for the joy set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.

Hebrews 12:2

God is the one who makes blind eyes see… I am not going to beg for servants. Jesus didn’t beg. He simply said “Follow Me”. He didn’t chide the nine lepers that walked away with their healing, He simply blessed the One that turned back to Him to serve.
God is the One who knows whose heart is His… He will provide for that positions… my eyes are simply to stay on Christ… He’s the One who is in control… and whatever frustration I am experiencing at the moment is nothing compared to what He went through for me. Perspective!

The joy that I receive from loving these kids and investing in their eternal souls… it’s all worth it. Perseverance!

God is teaching me through all this as well and preparing me and training me and so I will work to take deep breathes and smile… trusting Him with each day to accomplish His work… because it’s all His anyway. Patience!

I am also learning that it is not me that has been rejected. It’s not the children. It’s Him. So I am learning that it is not anger or frustration that is rising up in me… it is sadness… just flat out sadness.

The Lord said to Samuel, “Listen to the voice of the people in regard to all that they say to you, for they have not rejected you, but they have rejected Me…

1 Samuel 8:7

Don’t Take Marital Advice From Someone Whose Only Made It a Year

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There is a blog post popping up all over the social media world. It is causing quite a stir. I have responded to individuals, but today, well… most of my two cents worth just might come out.

The post: “My husband is not my soul mate

My first reaction… the dear girl has only been married a year! One year! She writes these words and she is completely clueless.

My second reaction… her opinion is given with zero Biblical backing. It is simply her opinion as a young woman who has been in this marriage thing for ONLY ONE YEAR.

What I know is that this young girl, if she holds to her confession firm until the end, will read this post 15 years from now and shudder at her ignorance. Within this time frame she will experience something she had no clue about… soul mating. I am not writing here to condemn the young girl, she just doesn’t know yet was is to come. She just has more growing to do in her grace and knowledge of God and marriage. I assure you marriage will indeed help her with that… that is, if she keeps her covenant as she says she will.

Unfortunately, I see in her post an under-lying attempt by the enemy of our souls to demean marriage even more than our culture already has. Marriage was the first blood covenant recorded in the Scriptures for a reason. Marriage is used as an illustration of the church and Christ. Let us not forget that.

Let us not forget that our God is indeed a sovereign God and He weaves our lives… relationships and all. There is a reason you know the people you know. There is a reason you are where you are…

 and He made from one man every nation of mankind to live on all the face of the earth, having determined their appointed times and the boundaries of their habitation

Acts 17:26

As for her father, He may be a Biblical scholar, but maybe, just maybe, he said what he said to get his daughter’s eyes off the things of the flesh and onto the things of Christ. Maybe he was trying to get her to see that if she thought a husband was the answer to all her prayers she was going to be in a butt load of trouble and deep ditch of disappointment.

A husband is just a man. He is not our God, ladies. He will have faults. He will have sin. He will have struggles. He will at times be unkind, unloving, unapproachable. He will say and do things that will hurt. He is flesh, just like you. He needs Jesus, just like you. He needs love, forgiveness, mercy, grace, and redemption… just like you.

Maybe her father just wanted her to know:

A Christian woman does not put her hope in her husband, or in getting a husband. She does not put her hope in her looks or her intelligence or her creativity. She puts her hope in the promises of God. She is described in Proverbs 31:25: “Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come.” 

She laughs at everything the future could bring because she hopes in God.

She looks away from the troubles and miseries and obstacles of life that seem to make the future bleak, and she focuses her attention on the sovereign power and love of God who rules in heaven and does on earth whatever he pleases (Ps. 115:3). 

She knows her Bible, and she knows her theology of the sovereignty of God, and she knows his promise that he will be with her and will help her and strengthen her no matter what. This is the deep, unshakable root of Christian womanhood.

~ John Piper

As for, “does God have a specific person for you?” The Bible clearly states that by all means He very well could! Let the Word of God speak for Himself:

Eve and Adam: Eve was made from Adam’s rib… they are the picture, foundation, root, the mold for every marriage after… Eve was specifically formed for Adam… she was chosen

Sarah and Abraham:  Isaac was to come from Sarah. Abraham could screw around with Hagar if he wanted, and reap the consequences, but Sarah was the one through whom the promised son would come… she was chosen

Rebekah and Isaac: My goodness read the story… it’s breathtaking! Genesis 24 its all there… she was chosen

Ruth and Boaz: The family just happened to travel to Moab, the son just happened to marry Ruth, the son just happened to die, Ruth just happened to end up in Boaz’s field, she just happened to bear the grandfather of David? No, I don’t think so… she was chosen

Mary and Joseph: Have you ever noticed that Mary had a-husband-to-be before she conceived the Son of God by the power of the Holy Spirit. Do you really think God just thought any man could raise His Son? No… this marriage was ordained by God… Joseph was chosen for Mary and Mary… she was chosen 

The Bride and Christ: Oh my, why of course… she was chosen

“You did not choose Me but I chose you”

John 15:16

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who are chosen according to the foreknowledge of God the Father, 

by the sanctifying work of the Spirit, 

to obey Jesus Christ and be sprinkled with His blood

1 Peter 1:1-2


Now as for the soul mate… Oh yes, dear new bride… he is indeed your soul mate! This is why sex outside of marriage is so detrimental to your inner being. You make soul ties:

“and the two became one flesh”

Genesis 2:24

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“Or do you not know that the one who joins himself to a prostitute

is one body with her?”

1 Corinthians 6:16

Your soul is made by God to be tied to only two others, Himself and your spouse…

A cord of three strands is not quickly torn apart.

Ecclesiastes 4:11-13

When we choose to pull strings off that cord and connect them to those who are not our spouse… then, when we do enter into marriage our cord is weakened. It is not the strong cord God intended it to be and it takes time and effort and pain and repentance and forgiveness and redemption to get those strings back in order to strengthen that cord. Yet, it CAN be strengthened and become that “cord of three strands” with your spouse and God.

That my dear is part of the soul mating.

What this young girl has not yet realized is all the ways that she and this man will come to know one another. The ways she will realize that he can tell and see things about her that only God should be able to see. What she does not yet know, is that God will mate this man to her soul in such a way that she will not be able to see herself even able to breath apart from him. She will have a revelation of a picture of her entire self being ripped apart if ever the thought of calling it quits enters her mind. Her soul will remind her that she is not herself apart from him.

Right now , a year in, she can walk through the house and say this is his and that is mine, but one day she will not even be able to recall what belonged to whose grandmother, because even their pasts have somehow managed to become intertwined.

Now please know that God's Word does not promise us a spouse, there are those who are called to a life of singleness, as Paul was...

Yet I wish that all men were even as I myself am.

1 Corinthians 7:7

but when a spouse is called and chosen... they do indeed become your soul mate.

Even more on God’s sovereignty in marriage…

My children were known by God before they were formed in my womb (Jeremiah 1:5). My children can only be who they are by the unique combination of my and my husbands DNA. Therefore, for my daughters to be here on this earth as my Shelby and Rebekah, my God had to direct my steps to my Patrick. The awesome thing is, He did this when I didn’t even know Him.

The bottom line my dear ones is that either God is sovereign or He is not.

God is even sovereign over sin. He uses all things to bring about His purpose because He is God. My husband had a child before he was married to me. God used a relationship that was not holy to bring about a beautiful blonde haired girl who was formed and fearfully and wonderfully made for a purpose by her Creator God, not unlike the way He used Judah and Tamar (Genesis 38). Was her mother my husbands soul mate… no she wasn’t. He was always intended to be mine. However, this beautiful blonde haired young woman is indeed here for a reason. She is in my life for a reason, but her life needed to be formed from these two for her to be her. God, in His sovereignty, purposed it and worked it out.

Anyway… there’s some of my two cents.

True Words Are Followed By Action

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The Unless Series continues…

The next occurrence of the word unless in the Scriptures (according to the NASB) is in Genesis 42

 by this you will be tested: by the life of Pharaoh,

you shall not go from this place unless your youngest brother comes here!

Genesis 42:15 

From Genesis 42 until Genesis 44 the word “unless” occurs five times and each time its  related to this same verse. So what’s the context of this verse?

Joseph is now second in command in Egypt. Let us remember that he has gained this position after his older brothers threw him in a pit and then sold him as a slave to Midianite traders. Now in Genesis 42 his brothers stand before him… well no… actually, his brothers bow before him and they are seeking food.

Joseph accuses them of being spies… and does not believe their words… and so he gives them an opportunity to prove their words. This opportunity he gives them will serve a two-fold purpose.

1) It will test the words and character of his older brothers

2) It will give him peace over the concern he has carried for the welfare of his younger brother, Benjamin

The usage of this unless is pretty much an ultimatum. I believe the point of this ultimatum is to remind us that true words come with action backing them. True words can be tested and proved.

You can read these chapters and clearly see the dilemma placed before the brothers by Joseph. You want grain… bring me the brother. If you speak the truth then you have nothing to fear.

There is no need or room for quarreling when our words are true.

Joseph knew this.

Because Joseph spoke truth… and he endured whatever consequences came with it.

Sometimes, God places us in sticky situations to test us. Sometimes He places us in sticky situations as an opportunity for redemption, an opportunity for confession, and opportunity to make a wrong a right.

Here is this unless…

We can see what the brothers did, and how the unless played out in their lives and in the life of Joseph as we read the rest of Genesis.

Today I want you to consider the “unless ultimatum” that may be before you today. Are you in a sticky situation? Is there an unless before you now? An unless that will test you, to see if you are a changed person?

Has God placed an opportunity before you today to do the right thing?

Will you be tested and approved?

Will your words come with action?

Romans Study For Kids (Romans 7:14-25)

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This post will almost conclude our study in Romans 7… we will have to step back into Romans 7 to set our context for our study in Romans 8 🙂

Yesterday we learned that the Law of God is good, righteous, and holy. We learned that the Law helps us see how very sinful our sin really is. Without the Law we would convince ourselves that our sin was really not that bad. Especially when we compared our sin to others. We can always find someone whose sin we think is worse than ours. However, what we learn from the Bible is that all of us are equally judged by the Law of God and none of us can keep it. That is why we need Jesus.

Today we are picking up our study in Romans in Romans 7:14-25. Today we will see that even after we are saved we are still at war with sin.

That’s why God gave us armor. Before we study today take a moment to go read Ephesians 6:10-18. Let’s put our armor on and pray that God would help us understand His Word and help us obey it. 

Now let us begin today’s study with reading Romans 7:14-25.

 

Romans 7:14-25

14 For we know that the Law is spiritual, but I am of flesh, sold into bondage to sin.

15 For what I am doing, I do not understand; for I am not practicing what I would like to do, but I am doing the very thing I hate.

16 But if I do the very thing I do not want to do, I agree with the Law, confessing that the Law is good.

17 So now, no longer am I the one doing it, but sin which dwells in me.

18 For I know that nothing good dwells in me, that is, in my flesh; for the willing is present in me, but the doing of the good is not.

19 For the good that I want, I do not do, but I practice the very evil that I do not want.

20 But if I am doing the very thing I do not want, I am no longer the one doing it, but sin which dwells in me.

21 I find then the principle that evil is present in me, the one who wants to do good.

22 For I joyfully concur with the law of God in the inner man,

23 but I see a different law in the members of my body, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin which is in my members.

24 Wretched man that I am! Who will set me free from the body of this death?

25 Thanks be to God through Jesus Christ our Lord! So then, on the one hand I myself with my mind am serving the law of God, but on the other, with my flesh the law of sin.

 

 

Read Romans 7:14

What do we learn about the Law?

It is __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __

What do we learn about ourselves?

I am of __ __ __ __ __, sold into __ __ __ __ __ __ __ to __ __ __

 

Read Romans 7:15 very slowly. Fill in the blanks below to complete the verse.

For what I am doing,

__   __ __   __ __ __   __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __

for I am not practicing what I would like to do, but

__  __ __  __ __ __ __ __ the very thing I __ __ __ __

 

THINK ABOUT IT…

Have you ever felt like Paul in Romans 7:15? Have you ever wanted to do the right thing, because you knew it was right, but instead you did something that knew was wrong? Maybe you told your mom or dad or brother or sister or even your best friend that you hated them, when you know you don’t, but when your feeling were hurt or you were angry it just came out. Then you felt really bad for saying it… and feeling it.

Read Romans 7:16. What does it show about us, when we know that something we did was wrong and we really hate that we did it?

it shows we  __ __ __ __ __  with the  __ __ __ ,

confessing that the  __ __ __  is  __ __ __ __

 

Now if we confess that the Law is good and the problem is us, not the Law of God. And, if we have confessed Jesus as Lord and we have been united with Him in His death, burial, and resurrection (remember Romans 6:3-4). Why do we still sin?

Let’s read Romans 7:17-19 very slowly to find out. Fill in the blanks below to complete the verses as you read.

So now, no longer am __  the __ __ __ doing __ __, but __ __ __ which __ __ __ __ __ __ in __ __

For I know that __ __ __ __ __ __ __  __ __ __ __  dwells in __ __, that is __ __   __ __ __ __ __

for the __ __ __ __ __ __ __ is present in __ __, but the __ __ __ __ __  of the __ __ __ __ is __ __ __

For the __ __ __ __ that I __ __ __ __, I do  __ __ __  do, but I __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ the very __ __ __ __ that I  __ __   __ __ __  want

 

Read Romans 7:20. What is the cause of all this struggle inside of us? 

the __ __ __ which __ __ __ __ __ __ in me

 

THINK ABOUT IT… 

Do you know any Christians who got a new body after they were saved? No? Me either. I still have my old one too. When we become Christians and Jesus comes to live in us, our sin is still in us too. The difference is that now that sin is no longer our boss. Jesus is. So now we have Jesus to help us fight sin and to help us not sin. When before we were Christians, we had no power over sin. We may not even have recognized that some things were a sin. So now as Christian, we have a struggle with this flesh of ours that still wants to do bad things sometimes, and our hearts that want us to do the good and right things that please God. 

Go to a computer and put this link in your search bar, it’s a video from Candace that kind of helps you see this struggle in action.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9iq6Cbd5YxA


Read Romans 7:21. What does this struggle reveal to us? 

  1. __ __ __ __  is present in me
  2. but I want to  __ __     __ __ __ __

 

Read Romans 7:22. Where do we joyfully concur (or agree) with the law of God?

in the __ __ __ __ __    __ __ __

 

Read Romans 7:23. Where do we see the different law (the law of sin)?

in the members of my __ __ __ __

 

Read Romans 7:23 again. What is happening between the different law at work in the members of our body and  the law of our mind that knows God’s law is good?

they are at  __ __ __

 

THINK ABOUT IT…

Do you think that even as a Christian you could go a whole week and never sin?

Read Romans 7:24. What conclusion do we come to when we try not to sin and to keep the Law of God? 

__ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ man that I am!

 

Do you know what “wretched” means? It means poor, miserable, despicable, absolutely pitiful! 

The harder we try to keep God’s law on our own, the more we realize we can’t. 

 

Read Romans 7:24 again. What question is asked?

__ __ __  will set me  __ __ __ __  from the body of this  __ __ __ __ __?

 

Read Romans 7:25. Who is the “Who” that will set us free?

__ __ __ __ __

 

WOW! Jesus saves us today from the power of sin and the effects of sin, and one day He will save us from this body of sin as well. We will learn more about this in Romans 8. Right now let’s just stop here for the day and spend some time thanking God for Jesus. Why not sing the first part of Amazing Grace as a praise to God right now.

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Romans Study For Kids (Romans 7:7-13)

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Romans 7:7-13

7 What shall we say then? Is the Law sin? May it never be! On the contrary, I would not have come to know sin except through the Law; for I would not have known about coveting if the Law had not said, “You shall not covet.”

But sin, taking opportunity through the commandment, produced in me coveting of every kind; for apart from the Law sin is dead.

I was once alive apart from the Law; but when the commandment came, sin became alive and I died;

10 and this commandment, which was to result in life, proved to result in death for me;

11 for sin, taking an opportunity through the commandment, deceived me and through it killed me.

12 So then, the Law is holy, and the commandment is holy and righteous and good.

13 Therefore did that which is good become a cause of death for me? May it never be! Rather it was sin, in order that it might be shown to be sin by effecting my death through that which is good, so that through the commandment sin would become utterly sinful.

 

Romans 7:7 begins with more questions. What are they?

  1. What shall we say then?
  2. __ __   the  __ __ __    __ __ __?

 

Read Romans 7:7 again. What is Paul’s answer to these questions?

__ __ __    __ __   __ __ __ __ __   __ __!

 

What does Paul say that he would not have come to know had it not been for the Law?

__ __ __

THINK ABOUT IT…

How does knowing the Ten Commandments help you know when you are sinning? When you tell a lie, take something that is not yours, disobey your parents, or even want something that belongs to someone else… are you reminded of what God says about that by the Ten Commandments and other verses you have learned from the Bible?

 

Read Romans 7:8-11. This might be hard to understand as you read it. So go ahead and read it two times.

Now maybe what Romans 7:8-11 is saying is that, before you knew God’s Law, you probably thought you were pretty good. When you heard God’s Law the first time, you might even have thought you could do a pretty good job of keeping it. 

Look up and read Matthew 19:16-22. You will read about a man who thought he could keep all the commandments too.

According to Matthew 19:21 what did Jesus say that the young man still needed to do?

__ __ __ __ all his __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __

and come,  __ __ __ __ __ __    __ __

 

What commandment or commandments do you think the young man was unable to keep? Write your answer below.

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THINK ABOUT IT…

As you read Romans 7:7-11 and you read about the young man in Matthew 19:16-22 do you think that the Law is bad since it was because of the Law that sin was woken up in you? 

Go back and read Romans 1:18-20, Romans 2:12-16, and Romans 3:19-20.

What did these verse teach us about the Law of God? 

So is the Law good or is the Law bad? Explain your answer to the adult that is helping you with this study.

 

Read Romans 7:12. What does this verse tell us about the Law of God? Fill in the blanks below with the answer.

the Law is __ __ __ __

the commandment is __ __ __ __

and __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __

and __ __ __ __

 

Read Romans 7:13. How does this verse begin? Unscramble the letters to get your answer.

HTREEFROE     __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __

Remember when there is a “therefore” we need to find out what the “therefore” is there for. This “therefore” is referring back to what we just learned, that the Law is good.

Read Romans 7:13 again. 

What is Paul’s question?

did that which is good become a cause of __ __ __ __ __ for __ __?

What is the answer to this question?

__ __ __    __ __    __ __ __ __ __    __ __!

 

Read Romans 7:13 again. What is it that causes death in us. Circle your answer.

Law                    sin

 

Read Romans 7:13 one more time. What good thing does the Law do for us?

it makes sin __ __ __ __ __ __ __    __ __ __ __ __ __

 

Whew! That was a lot! We will stop here and think about all that we have learned. Let’s end today’s study with talking to our God. Let’s thank Him that we are saved by faith in Jesus and not our ability to keep the Law.

 

 

Romans Study For Kids (Romans 7:1-6)

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It’s time to begin digging into Romans 7…

 

Romans 7:1-6

1 Or do you not know, brethren (for I am speaking to those who know the law), that the law has jurisdiction over a person as long as he lives?

For the married woman is bound by law to her husband while he is living; but if her husband dies, she is released from the law concerning the husband.

So then, if while her husband is living she is joined to another man, she shall be called an adulteress; but if her husband dies, she is free from the law, so that she is not an adulteress though she is joined to another man.

Therefore, my brethren, you also were made to die to the Law through the body of Christ, so that you might be joined to another, to Him who was raised from the dead, in order that we might bear fruit for God.

For while we were in the flesh, the sinful passions, which were aroused by the Law, were at work in the members of our body to bear fruit for death.

But now we have been released from the Law, having died to that by which we were bound, so that we serve in newness of the Spirit and not in oldness of the letter.

 

Read Romans 7:1. How does it begin?

__ __ do you not know,

 

THINK ABOUT IT…

How many complete thought sentences do you know that begin with the word “or”? “Or” is a conjunction word. This means it joins together two sentences, or two thoughts by either comparing, contrasting, or conjoining them. If Romans 7 begins with the word “or” then we need to find out what two sentences or thoughts are being joined together. So let’s go back and begin reading at Romans 6:20.

 

Read Romans 6:20-7:1. How long does the law have jurisdiction over a person?

__ __    __ __ __ __    __ __    __ __    __ __ __ __ __

 

Read Romans 7:2-3. What example does Paul give us to explain how the law was over us? Unscramble the words to get your answer.

MIRAREGA      __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __

 

THINK ABOUT IT…

Have you ever been to a wedding? When the couple getting married says their wedding vows, or wedding promises to one another, that promise ends with “until death do us part”

The husband and wife are supposed to keep these promises to one another and make them with no one else. These promises to one another are for life.

But if one of them dies, then the promises are able to be made to someone else.

Paul is trying to show us here that we are bound to the law until we die in Christ like we learned happens Romans 6

It’s kind of like we are married to the law. But when we die in Christ, the law does not matter anymore, because we are now free to be married to Jesus. 

 

Read Romans 7:4. What usually happens when people get married? Look at the picture below to get your answer.

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They have __ __ __ __ __ __

 

Read Romans 7:4 again. If we have died to the law and have been married to Christ what should we be doing for God?

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Remember what we learned in our Romans Part One Study?

Go back and read Matthew 7:16-20 and John 15:1-8. Then answer the question below.

How do we know if we belong to God?

We should bear  __ __ __ __   fruit for __ __ __

 

Read Romans 7:5. When we were in the flesh what did our bodies bear fruit for? 

__ __ __ __ __

 

Read Romans 7:6. When we were bound to the Law we served in the oldness of the letter. No matter how hard we tried to keep the Law, we just couldn’t. Now in Jesus we are dead to the Law. How do we serve now?

in the __ __ __ __ __ __ __  of the __ __ __ __ __ __

 

Read Galatians 5:22-23. This passage describes to us what our fruit should be when we serve in the Spirit. Fill the tree below with the fruit of the Spirit. 

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Kids Mess Rooms Adults Mess Hearts

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Be on guard, so that your hearts will not be weighted down with dissipation and drunkenness and the worries of life, and that day will not come on you suddenly like a trap

Luke 21:34

Kids are messy. Anyone who has them knows this is true. The room will be spotless but then they enter it… and it explodes!

I used to keep a spotless house. I mean eat off the floor spotless. I thought that it was really important for me to be a good housekeeper… but then I realized that in order to keep it spotless I had to constantly be on my kids, pick this up, put that back, did you not see I just washed that, I just mopped this floor, look at this mess, did you not see I just finished vacuuming, etc. 

I was always either harping on them or trailing right behind them like a hoover vac picking up as fast as they messed up and when they asked me to play along, I was sure to let them know that I couldn’t because I was too busy going behind them cleaning up their mess.

Then one day I realized I was busy cleaning the wrong things…

I realized that the kids were messing up rooms, but I was messing up hearts.

I had these children looking to me to help them keep a clean heart and I was too busy worried about keeping a clean house to see it. I was more worried about the splatter marks on the bathroom mirror to see the splatter marks of sin that were on our hearts.

Create in me a clean heart, O God,

Psalm 51:10

Today I see that kids mess rooms, but adults mess hearts.

These children entered this world as little sinners. Yes, their little hearts are slap full of the seeds of sin… yet their hearts carry no worries, no dissipation, no drunkenness . They have hearts full of the seeds of sin, but they are not yet weighted down.

I realized that I was the one that was weighting down their hearts with all that stuff…

I was just taking my weighted down heart and dumping it on over onto theirs…

…I will not be a burden to you. I don’t want what you have—I want you. After all, children don’t provide for their parents. Rather, parents provide for their children. I will gladly spend myself and all I have for you, even though it seems that the more I love you, the less you love me.

2 Corinthians 12:14-15 (NLT)

Is it possible that many times we as parents look at the carefreeness of our children and are jealous of it and so seek to destroy it by “bringing them to reality”? We look at them and wonder how they do not see all the things in the floor we are tripping all over, the mess in the floorboard of the car we are shoving over, the crumbs on the counter, the dirty clothes covering the floor, or the pizza smeared all over their face clear up to their forehead…

So we decide it is our responsibility as parents to make sure they do see them…

The funny thing is that we provide them with all this stuff, then we get upset when we are tripping all over it.

Kids can’t have a floor full of toys for us to trip over unless we have allowed them in the house or purchased them for them. They can’t have a floor full of dirty clothes without first having received a closet full of clean ones, that once again we allowed or provided. They wouldn’t leave crumbs all over the counter and food smeared all over their face if it were not for the abundance of food that we have allowed and provided for them. I mean, really, there is no need to worry about consuming crumbs when a brand new feast is coming in just a few hours.

This is parenting in most of America.

We weigh our kids hearts down with worries and we don’t even realize it… because we call it “giving them the things we never had”. We load them up and then we fuss at them for not being able to handle it all.

Our job as parents is not to burden our children down, but to build them up. If we are going to provide them with all this stuff, we must be careful to not put too much stock in the stuff… We must be purposeful to keep all things in perspective.

In this day of America, if we are not careful we will end up training our children to be very good at white washing tombs.

We may keep the house clean, but how much filth have we shoved into the closet of our kids heart in order to do so?

How many opportunities to clean out the hearts of our children did we pass over in favor of cleaning out the garage or filling up the garage with more stuff…

I am returning to this post after about a month… after I read this article, I Wonder If Sunday School Is Destroying Our Kids, and reading this quote in it, “So why do we burden our children with the unbearable load of “being good little boys and girls like the heroes in the Bible”? We wouldn’t load a pack mule with the burdens we place on our children.”

Have you ever really stopped and thought of the burdens of no eternal value we place on our children?

While all the while we completely ignore the things that are eternal in them… like their souls.

Take a moment and walk through your home and look over your calendar… how much time have you spent training your child up in the things of God… in discussing with them the fears of their hearts… as compared with training them to catch a baseball and/or “discussing” with them the importance  of the fears of surprise company coming over and the house being a wreck?

Are you busy white washing tombs and teaching your children how to do it as well?

Unless… Series Begins

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I wrote a post not long ago titled Unless… I wrote this after I noticed how many times the word “unless” was used in the Scriptures and the context in which it was used.

This word has continued to run through my mind over and over since that day… so I am going to dig into it. I am beginning  an “Unless Series”. A series of posts on the usage of the word unless in the Scriptures.

The word “unless” is a pretty strong word. According to the online Free Dictionary in its conjunction form it means: except on the condition that; except under the circumstances that and in its preposition form it means: except; but; save, except for.

The first usage of the word “unless” in the Word of God, according to the NASB, is in Genesis 32:26. 

Then he said, “Let me go, for the dawn is breaking.”

But he said, “I will not let you go unless you bless me.”

 

In this verse, the word “unless” in the Hebrew is kiy. It is used as a conjunction in this verse and it means: that, for, because, when, as though, as, because that, but, then, certainly, except, surely, since, that, yea, indeed.

The context of this verse of Scripture is when Jacob has been left alone after sending his family and all his possession across the stream. He was  empty in this passage. He was empty of his family, his possessions, all his earthly wealth… all the things that defined him past and present were across the stream and he stood alone. He was just Jacob… the deceiver.

He stood there empty and for the first time he realized that unless God was with him… unless God blessed him… unless he held on to the heel of God he could not prevail.

In the womb he took his brother by the heel,
And in his maturity he contended with God.
Yes, he wrestled with the angel and prevailed;
He wept and sought His favor.
He found Him at Bethel
And there He spoke with us,
Even the Lord, the God of hosts,
The Lord is His name.
Therefore, return to your God,
Observe kindness and justice,
And wait for your God continually. 

Hosea 12:3-6

From the womb, Jacob was a sinner. He sought his way in this world by the cunning of his wits. He thought he could connive and manipulate and deceive to get what he wanted in this world. It worked pretty good for a while… but eventually he began to reap the consequences.

Finally as he looked to his future  and he looked to his past… he realized that unless the Lord bless him he had no where to go.

Are you there precious one?

The first unless in the Scriptures came from a man who made his lot by manipulating those who were his own family. He used his family instead of serving them. He stole from them instead of giving to them. He lied to them instead of loving them. He was after his own good, not the good of his family…

but finally He realized that it was only by the grace of God that He had what he had.

In this realization he knew that if God did not bless him, he could not carry the weight of his consequences. He realized that having the blessing of God was worth more than having all that he just sent ahead of him across that stream. He realized reality. He was nothing apart from the grace of God.

Are you there?

Have you been there?

If so, what was your unless moment?  What did it take for you to stop and lay everything you ever thought you were, everything you ever thought you wanted, to stop and lay it aside, and stand alone before God and take hold of Him and say “I will not let you go unless you bless me.”

Romans Study For Kids (Romans 6:12-23)

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Romans 6:12-23

 

12 Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body so that you obey its lusts,

13 and do not go on presenting the members of your body to sin as instruments of unrighteousness; but present yourselves to God as those alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness to God.

14 For sin shall not be master over you, for you are not under law but under grace.

15 What then? Shall we sin because we are not under law but under grace? May it never be!

16 Do you not know that when you present yourselves to someone as slaves for obedience, you are slaves of the one whom you obey, either of sin resulting in death, or of obedience resulting in righteousness?

17 But thanks be to God that though you were slaves of sin, you became obedient from the heart to that form of teaching to which you were committed,

18 and having been freed from sin, you became slaves of righteousness.

19 I am speaking in human terms because of the weakness of your flesh. For just as you presented your members as slaves to impurity and to lawlessness, resulting in further lawlessness, so now present your members as slaves to righteousness, resulting in sanctification.

20 For when you were slaves of sin, you were free in regard to righteousness.

21 Therefore what benefit were you then deriving from the things of which you are now ashamed? For the outcome of those things is death.

22 But now having been freed from sin and enslaved to God, you derive your benefit, resulting in sanctification, and the outcome, eternal life.

23 For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.

 

 

 

We learned in Romans 6:1-11 that we were baptized into Jesus Christ, which means that…

 – when He died, we died

 – when He was buried, we were buried

 – when He was raised, we were raised

 – death is no longer master over Him 

 – sin is no longer master over us

  • and since Jesus lives to God, so should we

 

Now we are going to begin digging into Romans 6:12-23…

Read Romans 6:12. What word does it begin with?

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Remember that when we see a “therefore” we need to look back at the verses before it to see what the “therefore” is there for. Read Romans 6:8-11 to find out what the “therefore” is there for.

 

Read Romans 6:12 again. What command does God give us in this verse?

Do not let __ __ __ reign in your mortal __ __ __ __

 

Read Romans 6:13. What command are we given in this verse?

Do not go on presenting the members of your body to

__ __ __  as instruments of unrighteousness

 

Read Romans 6:13 again. Who and what are we to present ourselves to?

to  __ __ __  as those alive from the dead,

and your members as instruments of

__ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __   to God

Read Romans 6:14. How are we able to present our body to God as an instrument of righteousness? 

For __ __ __ shall __ __ __ be master over you

Read Romans 6:14 again. As a Christian, sin is no longer master over you and death is no longer master over you. So according to this verse what are we under? Circle your answer.

law               grace

 

Read Romans 6:15. If we are under grace and not law, does that mean that we can sin whenever we want to? 

May it  __ __ __ __ __  be!

 

Read Romans 6:16-22. Now that we are freed from sin, does that mean that we are slaves to noone and nothing? Read through these verses and answer the questions below.

If you have been freed from sin, what are you now a slave to? (hint:look at Romans 6:18)

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If you have been freed from sin, Who are you now enslaved to? (hint:look at Romans 6:22)

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When you were a slave to sin, you obeyed sin. What does the Bible tell us is the result of obeying sin? Read Romans 16:16 to find the answer. 

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When you become a slave to God, you obey righteousness. What does the Bible tell us is the result of obeying righteousness? Read Romans 16:19 to find the answer. 

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When we become a Christian we get a new heart and a new master. This changes the way we live and the choices we make. Have you ever seen “The Grinch Who Stole Christmas”?

Type this link into your computer search bar: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_eulSbXIjzk and watch the video clip.

Or if you have the movie at home, why not watch it with your family.

THINK ABOUT IT…

How did the Grinch change when his heart changed? Did his actions change? Did he get strength to do the right thing?

Romans 16:16-22 explains to us the difference in obeying sin and obeying righteousness. When we obey righteousness we learned the result is our sanctification.

Sanctification is a big word! It is a big and important word. As a matter of fact it is what Romans 6 – 8 is all about. So what exactly is sanctification?

Sanctification is the purification of our heart and life. Justification is when God forgives us and declares us not guilty of sin because Jesus paid our debt for us. Sanctification is when God begins to make us look and act like His children. 

 

Read Romans 16:22 again. What is the outcome of sanctification?

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Read Romans 16:23. Right this verse out below. This one you need to memorize.

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THINK ABOUT IT…

Did you first begin the process of sanctification (making yourself pure) by obeying righteousness (keeping the law) and then earn your justification (pardon from sin) from God and receive eternal life?

Is it even possible for us to do that?

No it’s not.

That’s why eternal life is a gift from God. 

Remember Jesus is a gift to us from God (John 3:16). Justification is a gift to us from God in Jesus (Romans 3:24). Righteousness is a gift to us from God through Jesus (Romans 4:3). Sanctification is a result of the gifts of God to Jesus (Romans 6:22).

We can’t make ourselves good enough for God… God has to do that for us. 

How about we take a moment to tell God thank you!

Romans Study For Kids (Romans 5:12-21)

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I just realized I never posted Romans 5:12-21 🙂

Romans 5:12-21

Therefore, just as through one man sin entered into the world, and death through sin, and so death spread to all men, because all sinned

13 for until the Law sin was in the world, but sin is not imputed when there is no law.

14 Nevertheless death reigned from Adam until Moses, even over those who had not sinned in the likeness of the offense of Adam, who is a type of Him who was to come.

15 But the free gift is not like the transgression. For if by the transgression of the one the many died, much more did the grace of God and the gift by the grace of the one Man, Jesus Christ, abound to the many.

16 The gift is not like that which came through the one who sinned; for on the one hand the judgment arose from one transgression resulting in condemnation, but on the other hand the free gift arose from many transgressions resulting in justification.

17 For if by the transgression of the one, death reigned through the one, much more those who receive the abundance of grace and of the gift of righteousness will reign in life through the One, Jesus Christ.

18 So then as through one transgression there resulted condemnation to all men, even so through one act of righteousness there resulted justification of life to all men.

19 For as through the one man’s disobedience the many were made sinners, even so through the obedience of the One the many will be made righteous.

20 The Law came in so that the transgression would increase; but where sin increased, grace abounded all the more,

21 so that, as sin reigned in death, even so grace would reign through righteousness to eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.

 

Read Romans 5:12. Through how many men did sin enter the world? Circle your answer.

3       2       1       7

 

Read Romans 5:12 again. What entered the world through sin? 

__ __ __ __ __

 

Read Romans 5:12 one more time. How many men did death spread to? Circle your answer.

few       some      couple      several       all

 

Read Romans 5:13. What came first the Law or sin?

__ __ __

 

Read Romans 5:14. What reigned from Adam to Moses to prove that sin came first?

__ __ __ __ __

 

Did people die before God gave Israel the Law (Ten Commandments)? Circle your answer.

Yes            No

 

Read Romans 5:15-21. These verses compare and contrast two different men and two different events. We will learn about a man named Adam and a man named Jesus. Let’s do some background work.

Who is Adam? Read Genesis 1:26-29 and Genesis 2:15-25 to find out.

Who is Jesus? Read John 1:1-5, John 1:14-18, and John 3:16 to find out.

What happened because of Adam? Read Genesis 3:1-24 to find out.

What happened because of Jesus? Read John 14:1-31 to find out.

Adam disobeyed His Father. He sinned and had to leave the garden of his Father. He was unable to return.

Jesus obeyed the Father. He never sinned and has come to take us back to the Father with Him! He is the way back to the Father’s house for all who believe.

Now let’s turn back to Romans 5:15-21 and see what else we learn about Adam and Jesus and what they mean to us.

 

Read Romans 5:15. Complete the sentence below by filling in the blanks.

But the free gift is __ __ __ like the transgression.

 

What is the free gift. Look back at Romans 3:24 to find out. Fill in the blanks with your answer.

being __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __

 

The free gift is being justified and receiving life. It is receiving the free gift of the grace of God.

The transgression is being condemned and receiving death. It it receiving the due penalty of the wrath of God.

These are two very different things aren’t they?

 

Read Romans 5:15-17 again and answer the following questions.

 

Who is “the one” who caused “the many” to die by transgression? 

__ __ __ __

 

Who is the one who caused the grace of God to abound to “the many”?

__ __ __ __ __

 

Read Romans 5:18-19. Look at the chart below. I have filled in the “what” and “results” section for you. I need you to fill in the “who” section.

What Results Who
one transgression resulted condemnation to all men  
One act of righteousness resulted justification of life to all men  
one disobedience many were made sinners  
obedience of the One many will be made righteous  

 

Read Romans 5:20. Why did the Law come?

So __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __  would

__ __ __ __ __ __ __ __

 

Remember Romans 3:20? What comes through the Law?

the __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ of sin

 

Remember Romans 3:10-18? How many of us do good? Circle your answer.

some of us        all of us         none of us

 

Read Romans 5:20. What abounded all the more as sin increased?

__ __ __ __ __

 

Read Romans 5:21. Fill in the blanks below.

Sin reigned in __ __ __ __ __

Grace would reign in __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __  to eternal __ __ __ __ through __ __ __ __ __

 

THINK ABOUT IT…

Are you wondering, how does the Law make sin increase and how does an increase in sin lead to more grace? Those are good questions to wonder about.

When we read the Law and the rest of God’s Word we learn about His standard and His holiness. We learn what He says is good and right. 

When we learn what He says is good and right and then we compare our actions, thoughts, and words to His we realize that we are great sinners. We realize that we disobey. We realize that we are just like Adam in the garden. 

And if we are just like Adam then we realize that we under condemnation and the wrath of God.

When we realize this we have two choices.

We can stay where we are and continue to love sin.

We can cry out to God for help and believe on Jesus and be saved. In Adam all die. In Christ all who believe live.

Let’s close our study in Romans 5 by filling in the chart below with pictures to help illustrate the difference between Adam and Jesus.

 

ADAM JESUS