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Speaking To The Heart of Your Child

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I shared with my church family last Wednesday night about how excited I am about the National Center of Biblical Parenting coming to our church to do a Parenting Solutions Seminar. I came across this organization, when I received the calling to children’s ministry and was researching curriculum and ideas. I followed a link from a DiscipleLand link that led me to the NSBP. As I perused their site I found myself saying, yes! Yes! This is great stuff!

Why do I feel it is great?

This organization is focused on teaching you how to apply the precepts of God to your parenting. How many times have you heard a parent say, this kid didn’t come with an instruction book? 

But the truth is they did.

God has faithfully left us His Word…

 Your word is a lamp to my feet
And a light to my path.

Psalm 119:105

So the problem really is not that our children didn’t come with an instruction book… it’s that we, as parents, need help learning how to read the Instruction Book and how to apply it to our parenting.

For the word of God is living and active and sharper than any two-edged sword, and piercing as far as the division of soul and spirit, of both joints and marrow, and able to judge the thoughts and intentions of the heart.

Hebrews 4:12

If you have ever looked at your kids and said How many times have I told you?

or Do you not understand the words coming out my mouth?

(or maybe that’s just me :-/)

I think a lot of parents feel like they come home and all they do is “get on” to their kids until bedtime.

I think a lot of parents are growing weary of correcting the same behavior over and over and they just finally say “whatever”

I think a lot of parents feel as if they are losing their mind… Remember that one of the signs of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results… so stop.

Stop now and choose to look at your child in a new way.

Choose to give your style of parenting a remake.

Choose to let someone teach you how the Word of God works in parentings… learn to live out the Word inside your home and see it at work in your heart and the heart of your child. I don’t know about you, but I want to speak to the heart of my child… not just correct their outward behavior or control their circumstances.

You, however, continue in the things you have learned and become convinced of, knowing from whom you have learned them, and that from childhood you have known the sacred writings which are able to give you the wisdom that leads to salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus. All Scripture is inspired by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness; so that the man of God may be adequateequipped for every good work.

2 Timothy 3:14-17

Everything we need to reach the heart of our children is in the Word of God.

Parenting comes with many trials and many tribulations… so parenting requires great perseverance. It is that perseverance through these trials that will bring about proven character in your child… and yes, precious one, in you as well.

 And not only this, but we also exult in our tribulations, knowing that tribulation brings about perseverance; and perseverance, proven character; and proven character, hope; and hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out within our hearts through the Holy Spirit who was given to us.

Romans 3:3-5

 

Yes, everything we need to reach the heart of our child and to be successful at this parenting thing is found in the Scriptures. It’s all right there in the Word of God.

The Christian Parenting Handbook will teach you to find it and apply it. You’ll discover simple advice like this:

Grouping offenses around character qualities is freeing for many parents. First, it provides some perspective. Instead of working on fifty different negative behaviors, now you can focus on three or four positive character qualities. Furthermore, once you develop a strategy for character development, you begin to see many of the offenses in your child’s life as opportunities for growth.

This approach also helps parents focus on what their kids need to be doing instead of simply focusing on the wrong behavior. Listen to your words of correction. Are they primarily focused on the problem, or on the solution?

In this book you will learn how to take the Word of God and realize that in it is all the parenting tools that you need that can apply to your own unique and beautiful children. My favorite thing about this book is that it takes away the formulas and steps and procedures that are in a lot of parenting books. I don’t know about you but I rarely even cook from a recipe… there is always something that I am out of, something we don’t buy, something I don’t like, something I forget to do or forgot to get… so I definitely can’t parent from one.

This is why I recommend purchasing this book… it takes parenting out of the box.

Trust me… you will not regret it.

Purchase the The Christian Parenting Handbook here.

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I recommend any of their Parenting Tools. Go here and find the parenting solutions you need to meet the needs of your individual child and your own unique family. You can also purchase the Handbook Companion Guide here.

Parenting seminar

 

If you live in the North Alabama area I would love for you to come and meet Dr Turansky and Dr Miller in person as they come to my church to share with us. They are very laid back and are coming ready and willing to spend one on one time with the attending parents.

You can register to attend here: Register for Parenting Solutions Seminar

 

 

Disclaimer: “As a member of The Christian Parenting Handbook Launch Team, I received a free copy of this book in exchange for my honest review and the opportunity to promote related giveaways and activities to my readers. All opinions are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with FTC Regulations.”

Parenting Seminar

Everyday Parents

 

Who:

Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN

authors of The Christian Parenting Handbook

founders of the National Center of Biblical Parenting

 

What:

Parenting Solutions Seminar

 

When:

Saturday, June 1st

             8:45am – 12pm

Where:

Shiloh Baptist Church

             3941 Hwy 36 East

              Somerville AL 35670

 

Why:

You’ll receive practical, biblical advice for your parenting in a fun and uplifting environment. Although all children are different, a few new ideas will help you tailor solutions to meet the needs of your family. You’ll leave with ideas you can put into practice right away.

Using stories, humor and plenty of illustrations, Dr. Turansky and Mrs. Miller will help you touch the hearts of your kids. Strategies directed to the heart help children make lasting changes, but often require that parents think differently about the way they work with their kids. When parents change the way they parent, kids change the way they live. Having the right tools makes all the difference.

Teach your children how to be internally motivated using the God-given conscience resident in their hearts. The conscience prompts children to do what’s right, deal with wrongs, be honest, and care about others. This seminar will teach you practical tools for changing everyday problems into learning experiences to help children develop the skills they’ll need for the rest of their lives.

This parenting seminar offers you hope and encouragement by helping you…
Identify the four parts of the conscience.
Learn how to adjust the words you say to strengthen the conscience of a child.
Take home a script that helps your child process correction wisely and powerfully.
Know how to approach difficult problems like defiance, lying, rebellion, and meanness.
Teach your children to take initiative to show kindness, help out, and add energy to your family instead of draining it.
Help your children listen to the voice of God in their own hearts.
Work with kids ages 2-18 in ways that will prepare them for a strong future.
Raise children who are internally-motivated and want to do what’s right.

Question and answer times provide parents with opportunities to present real problems they’re facing and hear suggestions.

 

How:

 

By clicking here: Register Today

Or email:nvaughn@shilohchurch.info

 

 

Parenting seminar

 

Cost is $25 per individual and $35 per couple

Child care is available.

As well as classes for children up to 12 years old.

 

***Please share this information with friends and families!

Another Huge Giveaway

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Okay, so with time being an issue this week for me… I have chosen to make life a little simpler and copy and paste all the info you need for this huge giveaway. I don’t want my loss of opportunity to get into an elaborate blog post to be the reason any of my readers miss an opportunity at these awesome giveaways.

So here you go!

The Christian Parenting Handbook

…the time has finally come!!

Buy the Book this Week!

We’ve been eagerly awaiting this week for a long time. The release has finally come! Buy your copy of The Christian Parenting Handbook this week from one of the online retailers, and as our thank you to you, receive over $400 worth of parenting resources. It’s just our way of saying thank you for your help to make the release a BIG SPLASH!

Please also pass the word with us – tell your friends, neighbors, co-workers, fans, and followers.

Join the Google Hangout – April 30

Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller will be hosting aGoogle Hangout on Tuesday evening April 30 starting at 7:30 pm EDT. This will be an on-air hangout where anyone can listen in. You can watch the video by going to theBiblical Parenting Facebook Group. You can also comment there and ask questions of Scott and Joanne.

Join us for the Twitter Party – May 1

We’re having a Twitter Party and giving away prizes, please follow us on Twitter and join in for the party. Follow @biblicalparent on Twitter and take a peek at the hashtag #heartparenting to keep up on what’s happening.

Lots of Ways to Join the Giveaways!

Comment on our blog to enter into the 5-Giveaways. Five winners will be selected from those who comment on the blog this week. Click here to access the blog.

Mega Multi-Blogger Giveaway!

We’re offering one Mega Giveaway too! Five big prizes for entering. Winners will be chosen on May 5. Click here to enter.

Might you even visit your local Christian Bookstore and ask for the book? Let’s get everyone talking about The Christian Parenting Handbook! Why? Because we believe this one book will help moms and dads gain the tools they need to work with their families in some very exciting and hopeful ways.

50 Short Chapters
50 Biblical Ideas with Practical Application
50 Ways to Increase Relationship
and Train Children’s Hearts

 

Find more resources for your family atwww.biblicalparenting.org.

 

And don’t forget if you live in the North Alabama area Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, the authors of The Christian Parenting Handbook will be at Shiloh Baptist Church Saturday, June 1st for a Parenting Seminar.

Click here to register: Register Today

 

Disclaimer: “As a member of The Christian Parenting Handbook Launch Team, I received a free copy of this book in exchange for my honest review and the opportunity to promote related giveaways and activities to my readers. All opinions are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with FTC Regulations.”

To Speak or Stay Silent

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There is an appointed time for everything.

And there is a time for every event under heaven—

A time to be silent and a time to speak.
A time to love and a time to hate;
A time for war and a time for peace.

Ecclesiastes 3:1,7-8

I was driving home today from church… on my way home to get my child’s softball uniform in the washing machine for her game tonight… and we are listening to way-fm… as usual.

As I drive I listen to the radio personality share the story of an NBA player who has “come out of the closet”.

She shared his story and then shared how she posted this blog about how we need to applaud him for his courage and his decision to live authentically… then she attempted to shame anyone who would believe any differently than her and still call themselves a Christian. She, expecting every “good” Christian to take this “coming out” as a “do-over” for the Christian church and how we should applaud him…

Excuse me?

Applaude?

Confirm?

Encourage?

He “comes out” because he believes he has been living a lie by not coming out… when the truth is he is living a lie because he has believed THE LIE.

For they exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever. Amen. For this reason God gave them over to degrading passions; for their women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural, and in the same way also the men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire toward one another, men with men committing indecent acts and receiving in their own persons the due penalty of their error.

Romans 1:25-27

I will not applaud a man to hell…

When you read the article we see that he did not “come out” to those who would challenge the lie he was living and encourage him to believe truth…

He chose to “come out” to those who would encourage his sin…

although they know the ordinance of God, that those who practice such things are worthy of death, they not only do the same, but also give hearty approval to those who practice them. Romans 1:32

 …those who would not question him, those who would not lead him to truth, but would give him approval to just snuggle right on in deeper into the Deceivers arms instead of standing up to fight against the powers of hell that were raging against him within his soul.

Let me ask you…

How can someone live authentically and true to themselves when what they believe of themselves is based on a lie?

No, Mrs. Radio Personality, I will not applaud a man to hell.

I will not call what he did courageous… it was not.

Courage is when you choose to do the right thing even when the gates of hell are against you… it doesn’t take courage to cower to your flesh.

It doesn’t take courage to “come out” in this day in our society…

It only gets your name in the paper and more money in your bank account.

However, it does take courage to stand up and say…

…this is who I was… this is still what my flesh craves… but I choose to call sin SIN, and I choose to serve Christ- not my flesh. Even though this is what I fight daily, this is my struggle, my thorn in the flesh… I choose Christ. I choose to not cower before the powers of hell that rage against me and I choose to believe the truth and trust that the grace of God promised me will be sufficient for me… just as He said it would. 

That, Mrs Radio Personality is courage.

Find this man… and applaude him.

For this you know with certainty, that no immoral or impure person or covetous man, who is an idolater, has an inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God. Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience. Therefore do not be partakers with them; for you were formerly darkness, but now you are Light in the Lord; walk as children of Light (for the fruit of the Light consists in all goodness and righteousness and truth), trying to learn what is pleasing to the Lord. Do not participate in the unfruitful deeds of darkness, but instead even expose them; for it is disgraceful even to speak of the things which are done by them in secret.

Ephesians 5:5-12

No, I will not make crude or rude comments about this man. I will pray for him. I will pray that his eyes will be opened and his heart softened and his mind enlightened that he might know, see, and comprehend the Truth.

I will not bash him, but neither will I applaud him.

Romans Study For Kids (Romans 3:10-20)

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And here is the handouts for digging into Romans 3:10-20 with your kids…

Romans 3:10-18

10 as it is written,

“There is none righteous, not even one;

11 There is none who understands,

There is none who seeks for God;

12 All have turned aside, together they have become useless;

There is none who does good,
There is not even one.”

13 “Their throat is an open grave,

With their tongues they keep deceiving,”
“The poison of asps is under their lips”;

14 “Whose mouth is full of cursing and bitterness”;

15 “Their feet are swift to shed blood,

16 Destruction and misery are in their paths,

17 And the path of peace they have not known.”

18 “There is no fear of God before their eyes.”

19 Now we know that whatever the Law says, it speaks to those who are under the Law, so that every mouth may be closed and all the world may become accountable to God; 

20 because by the works of the Law no flesh will be justified in His sight; for through the Law comes the knowledge of sin.

 

Below is the outline of a person. Read Romans 3:10-18 and draw or write what you learn on it.

 

man outline

 

Look up and read Matthew 7:17-20. How does Jesus say we will know people?

 

by their __ __ __ __ __ __

 

 

Look up and read Matthew 12:33-37. From where does the mouth speak?

 

the  __ __ __ __ __

 

 

Where is your heart? Is it inside or outside your body? Circle your answer.

 

   Inside              Outside

 

THINK ABOUT IT…

Jesus is teaching us that the things we say and the things we do come from what is inside of us… they do not come from what is outside of us. 

Think about the last time you were in trouble because you said or did something mean to someone. Did you try to get out of trouble by blaming them for what they did to you first?

If you were to try to tell that excuse to Jesus what do you think He would say to you?

Where would He say the mean thing you said or did came from?

 

Read Romans 3:10-12 and answer the questions below. Look over your person outline as you answer the following questions.

 

How many are righteous?

 

___________

 

How many understands? (their minds are dark)

 

____________

 

How many seek for God? (their eyes are closed)

 

____________

 

How many have turned aside?

 

____________

 

How many do good?

 

____________

 

 

According to Romans 3:10-12 is anyone righteous and good enough to be okay before God? Circle your answer.

 

Yes                    No

 

Does this include you? Circle your answer.

 

Yes                    No

According to Romans 3:13 what is their throat?

 

an  __ __ __ __    __ __ __ __ __

 

 

What is in a grave?

 

______________________________

 

THINK ABOUT IT…

As we broke down this part of Romans 3:10-13 we were able to see what was inside this person. Now as we begin looking at the rest of Romans 3:13 and Romans 3:14 we are going to see what is coming out of this person. We see that it first comes out of their throat. 

This is going to be kind of gross, but I want you to think about when you get a sick bug in your tummy and it makes your insides all yucky… What happens? 

That’s right! You throw up and that throw up comes out of your throat. 

This is kind of like what we are going see in Romans 3:13-14. This persons insides are bad and yucky, their heart is bad. So what comes out of them is going to be yucky and bad too. This is their “fruit”.

 

Read Romans 3:13. 

 

What do they do with their tongues?

 

they keep  __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __

 

What is under their lips?

 

__ __ __ __ __ __  of asps

 

What is their mouth full of?

 

__ __ __ __ __ __ __

and

__ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __

You might be wondering what an asp is… An asp is a small and most venomous serpent or snake. Its bite is fatal unless the bitten part is immediately cut away from your body.

 

THINK ABOUT IT…

Knowing this about the asp, look up and read Matthew 18:8-9. Jesus wants us to know how serious sin is in our lives. It is just like a bite from this asp. 

 

Romans 3:10-14 shows us what is inside of this person and also shows us what comes out this person through their throat and their mouth. We see how they speak.

Now we are going to look at how they act. We are going to see what they do and where they go.

 

Read Romans 3:15-17 and answer the following the questions. 

 

What are their feet swift to do?

 

shed __ __ __ __ __

 

 

What is in their path?

 

__ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __

 

and

 

__ __ __ __ __ __

 

 

What have they not know?

 

the path of  __ __ __ __ __

 

 

Read Romans 3:18 to find out why they do the the things they do and say the things they say.

 

There is no __ __ __ __  of  __ __ __ before their eyes.

 

 

As we look at this person we may think they are very, very, very bad. We may even be comparing ourselves to them right now and thinking we are okay because we are not that bad. However, we have to remember what we have learned in all of Romans. We have to remember that God does not compare us with each other. He compares us to Himself and His Law.

 

Read Romans 3:19 and answer the questions below.

 

How many mouths are closed?

 

__ __ __ __ __  mouth

 

Who is accountable to God?

 

__ __ __  the  __ __ __ __ __

 

 

 

Read Romans 3:20 and answer the questions below.

 

Who can be justified (be okay with God) by keeping the Law?

 

___ ___   flesh

 

Can anyone keep all of God’s Law and never break even one? Circle your answer.

 

Yes             No

 

Read Romans 3:20 again. If no one can be saved by keeping God’s Law then why did He give us the Law?

 

through the Law comes  the __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ of __ __ __

 

 

 

THINK ABOUT IT…

Read the Scripture verses printed below. 

Oh that they had such a heart in them, that they would fear Me and keep all My commandments always, that it may be well with them and with their sons forever!

(Deuteronomy 5:29)

“Now, Israel, what does the Lord your God require from you, but to fear the Lord your God, to walk in all His ways and love Him, and to serve the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul, and to keep the Lord’s commandments and His statutes which I am commanding you today for your good?

(Deuteronomy 10:12-13)

 

What kind of heart does God want us to have?

 

______________________________________________

 

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Spend some time today thinking about your own heart. 

Romans Study For Kids (Romans 3:1-9)

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I am working on my handouts for the Romans Study for Kids today. I am dividing Romans 3 up into three sections. Remember this study is written to accommodate the NASB translation. If you use a different translation in your children ministry or with your children at home feel free to adapt this study guide to your translation 🙂

In this post we will be looking at Romans 3:1-9

Romans 3:1-9

 1 Then what advantage has the Jew? Or what is the benefit of circumcision? 

2 Great in every respect. First of all, that they were entrusted with the oracles of God. 

3 What then? If some did not believe, their unbelief will not nullify the faithfulness of God, will it? 

4 May it never be! Rather, let God be found true, though every man be found a liar, as it is written,

“That You may be justified in Your words,
And prevail when You are judged.”

 5 But if our unrighteousness demonstrates the righteousness of God, what shall we say? The God who inflicts wrath is not unrighteous, is He? (I am speaking in human terms.) 

6 May it never be! For otherwise, how will God judge the world? 

7 But if through my lie the truth of God abounded to His glory, why am I also still being judged as a sinner? 

8 And why not say (as we are slanderously reported and as some claim that we say), “Let us do evil that good may come”? Their condemnation is just.

9 What then? Are we better than they? Not at all; for we have already charged that both Jews and Greeks are all under sin; 

 

As we dig into Romans 3:1-9 I want you to first read through these verses and count how many question marks you see.

How many question marks did you count?

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As we learn about our God we will have questions. Questions are good because they mean we are thinking. So as we continue to study through the book of Romans don’t be afraid to ask your own questions. Today we are going to look at the questions and answers in Romans 3:1-9. 

 

First go now and find two different colored crayons or colored pencils. It doesn’t matter what two colors, just as long as they are different colors.

Read Romans 3:1-2 printed below. Underline the question in one color and circle the answer in the other.

1 Then what advantage has the Jew? Or what is the benefit of circumcision?

Great in every respect. First of all, that they were entrusted with the oracles of God.

 

What were the Jews entrusted with?

the  __ __ __ __ __ __ __  of God

 

Do you think that being trusted with the words and law of God would be important? Circle your answer.

Yes                      No

 

Read Romans 3:3-4 printed below. Underline the question in one color and circle the answer in the other.

What then? If some did not believe, their unbelief will not nullify the faithfulness of God, will it?

May it never be! Rather, let God be found true, though every man be found a liar, as it is written,

“That You may be justified in Your words,
And prevail when You are judged.”

 

 

Who is always true? Circle your answer.

 

Man                      God

 

 

Does everyone have to believe what God says to make what He says true? Circle your answer.

 

Yes                        No

 

Look at the last part of Romans 3:4, “That You may be justified in Your words and prevail when You are judged”. This part of Romans 3:4 is a quote from Psalm 51. David wrote this Psalm after he admitted his sin against God when he committed adultery with Bathsheba and had her husband Uriah killed. David and Bathsheba’s baby would die as a result of this sin, and David could have blamed God and been angry with God with for this judgment. Instead David recognized that God had to right in this judgment no matter how David felt, because God was always true, right, just, and good.

Read Romans 3:5-6 printed below. Underline the question in one color and circle the answer in the other.

But if our unrighteousness demonstrates the righteousness of God, what shall we say? The God who inflicts wrath is not unrighteous, is He? (I am speaking in human terms.)

May it never be! For otherwise, how will God judge the world?

 

According to Romans 3:6 is the God who inflicts wrath unrighteous? Circle your answer.

Yes                          No

When we sin, we always receive consequences from that sin, even if we do not get caught or get in trouble because of it, we still have the feelings of guilt and shame that come from knowing we did it. Our unrighteousness (or sin) shows that God is righteous (or holy). If God did not judge sin then He would no longer be righteous. He proves His righteousness by His wrath.

 

Think About It….

If you went to your teacher and told them that someone in your class had taken your snack and would not give it back to you and that teacher did nothing about it… would you say that this was a good, fair, and right teacher?

 

 

 

Read Romans 3:7-8 printed below. Underline the question in one color and circle the answer in the other.

But if through my lie the truth of God abounded to His glory, why am I also still being judged as a sinner?

And why not say (as we are slanderously reported and as some claim that we say), “Let us do evil that good may come”? Their condemnation is just.

 

Remember the Antinomians? Paul is addressing them here with this question and answer. Remember the Antinomians believed that if their sin showed off God’s righteousness then they should be able to sin all they wanted because it just showed how great God was to forgive. 

According to Romans 3:8 how does God feel about this kind of thinking by the Antinomians?

Their  __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __  is just.

(The word “condemnation” in this verse is “krima” in the Greek and it means: the punishment with which one is sentenced)

 

Look up and read Proverbs 6:16-19. According to what you read how does God feel about a lying tongue and evil?

He  __ __ __ __ __  it.

Look up and read psalm 34:12-14 and Psalm 97:10. If we love the Lord how should we feel about sin?

We should __ __ __ __ it

 

Read Romans 3:9 printed below. Underline the question in one color and circle the answer in the other.

What then? Are we better than they? Not at all; for we have already charged that both Jews and Greeks are all under sin;

 

According to what you have studied in Romans 3:1-9 and also including Romans chapters 1 and 2 are the Jews better than the Greeks? Look at Romans 3:9 to find the answer and fill in the blanks.

__ __ __   at  __ __ __

What are the Jews and Greeks both under?

__ __ __

 

THINK ABOUT IT…

If the Jews and Greeks are both under sin, does this include you and me? 

Are we better than someone who does not go to church? 

Just because we have the Bible and read it and go to Sunday School and worship service and Awana’s and VBS does doing all this and knowing all this make us okay with God? 

 

 

The Giveaways Begin!

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Remember that Mayday I sent out?

Well now is the opportunity to get some tools in your hands for free!

The giveaway begins!

Beginning today until the official Launch Week (April 29th – May 5th) of the The Christian Parenting Handbook you can enter to win one of these 5 prizes right here on my site:

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Set of 5 Parenting Shifts eBooks by Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller,  RN BSN

The Parenting Shifts Series gives specific parenting advice for that particular age group. A team of experts, working together with Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN, have collaborated to bring you the best in a heart-based approach to parenting at any age. Wherever you are in your parenting journey these books will help you move forward with confidence and effectiveness.

Set Includes:

• The Baby Adventure (Birth to 12 Months)
• Toddlers on the Move (Ages 12-36 Months)
• Preschool Explorers (Ages 3-5 Years)
• Elementary Foundations (Ages 5-8 Years)
• Cultivating Responsibility (Ages 9-12 Years)

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Biblical Parenting University

This online class will give you the practical tools to develop more responsibility and cooperation in your home. Parents often comment that giving instructions to their children is the greatest source of conflict in family life. Nagging and angry episodes on the part of parents and kids result when children don’t cooperate. In this class you’ll learn how to adjust your own action point to teach your kids when you mean business. You’ll also learn a five step instruction routine that teaches children the skills they’ll need to follow instructions for the rest of their lives. This class is excellent for teachers as well as parents. You’ll learn how to use rules in your family to teach convictions and values. If you’re looking for a place to start, this is a great class that will help you change significant dynamics in your family using positive strategies.

Access to this class allows you to come and go at your convenience. It’s resident on the Internet so you can view segments whenever you’re online. The 4-hour class is broken into 4 lessons, each with 10-12 five-minute segments. View one segment at a time, or any number of them as you have time.

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Disciplemaking at Home eBook:

Parents have a job to do–pass the faith on to their kids. This book will show you how. Parents are the primary spiritual and moral trainers of their children and much of the everyday work of family life is the classroom where children learn. Here’s what you’ll learn in this book.

You will learn

•  Fun ways to pass the faith on to your kids.
•  How to use spontaneous moments to teach children what the faith is all about.
•  A biblical understanding of the conscience.
•  How to develop internal motivation in kids.
•  A plan to help children take responsibility for their part of an offense.
•  Ideas for teaching kids to take initiative instead of relying on parents to get things done.
•  Ways to move from behavior modification to a heart-based approach.
•  Tools to develop integrity in a child.
•  How to get kids to be others-focused instead of self-focused.

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Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining, and Bad Attitudes, in You and Your Kids Lesson 1 Complete Package: 

Includes Lesson 1 on Video, as an MP3, includes Study Guide pages, and the Kids Honor Club Children’s Program.

Honor is a biblical concept that changes the way people think and the way they treat others. Honor is a relationship term and teaching honor in the family equips children with the relational tools they’ll need for the rest of their lives. This package gives you instructions for both parents and children so that honor can transform the culture in your home.
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The Christian Parenting Companion Guide

50 Heart-Based Strategies for All the Stages of Your Child’s Life

by Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller,  RN BSN

The Companion Guide is a workbook of 50 lessons along with 50 audio tips to take you through The Christian Parenting Handbook step by step. Each lesson contains advice from Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller in a 5 minute audio tip and then offers teaching, an assignment, a Bible verse, and a prayer to help you apply each idea or strategy in your family.

You will learn

• A practical tool to stop children’s arguing
• How to separate firmness from harshness
• A strategy to help children change their hearts
• Ways to teach kids to add energy to family life
• Solutions for sibling conflict
• The relational side of parenting
• What to do when parents don’t agree
• How to help kids who are blamers
• and much more.

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Now here’s the thing… Click here:Launch Week to find out why you will want to wait until April 29th – May 5th to purchase the The Christian Parenting Handbook.

This is why you want to purchase this amazing heart based parenting guide.

It’s taking everything in me to not just blog away about the content in this book… but I am here to promote it and I really want you to have your own hands on it so that you can apply it to your own home.

*** This giveaway is open to Residents of the U.S. only.  Void where prohibited. Must be at least 18 years of age. 

Learning to Pray Instead of Say

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“And I will strengthen them in the Lord,
And in His name they will walk,” declares the Lord.
(Zechariah 10:12)

Today if you have called upon the name of Jesus remember that He is your strength (Philippians 4:13) and do not be deceived by the voices of this world but remember that it is in His name and in His Light that you walk (Ephesians 5:8-16). We may pass through times of trial and distress, but we are not without a shepherd and we have a Shepherd (John 10:14, 27-29) that will never lead us astray or allow us to be snatched away.

This was the mini-devo that I posted after reading through Zechariah 10 this morning. As I continued to ponder the Scripture verses in this chapter and in the verses that the Lord led me to as I typed out the mini-devo I could not let go of how grateful I am for the sovereignty of my God.
I read and ponder these verses and I think on the hopeful family’s that have suffered yet another miscarriage…
I think on the families that have had the opportunity to hold their precious newborn in their arms only hours before that new life breathes her last in their arms…
I think on the friends who are single mothers of children under twelve who have just found out that the chemo made the cancer spread and grow instead of rendering it impotent…
I think on the parents who tried all they knew to do to raise their children in the knowledge and admonition of the Lord, yet the children choose to live in the pleasures of sin and ignore the Lord and all that they have been taught…
I think of the families who have children who have never been able to say they love them or tell them their tummy hurts because autism has stolen their voice…
I think of those I see that can’t seem to let go of bitterness and past hurts and they can’t seem to step out in faith and trust that forgiveness always comes with healing and forgiveness doesn’t mean what happened is okay it just means that you trust that God will repay and He will use what happened for good, somehow, someway…
I think of or world… our nation… our government… our churches… and I ponder.
How thankful I am for the sovereignty of God. If not for the reality of His sovereignty I think I would crumble. My husband and I were talking one night about how far our God had brought us in our marriage. We talked about the changes that growing in His grace and choosing to walk in and by faith had made in our hearts, our minds, our souls, our spirit… and as we talked and thanked God by giving Him all the glory for this work, knowing it was not us in or of ourselves, my husband said…
You just never know what it’s like to live in someone else’s body”
And that is why and where we must rest in His sovereignty… and put grace into action because, no, we don’t know. All we know is how we think we would react or behave if we were them… but the fact is we are not. We do not know what it is like to live in their in their home, much less in their body..
but we have a God who does. 
We have a God who see their heart…
for God sees not as man sees, 
for man looks at the outward appearance, 
but the Lord looks at the heart. 
1 Samuel 16:7
We have a God who formed their spirit within them…
Thus declares the Lord who stretches out the heavens, 
lays the foundation of the earth, 
and forms the spirit of man within him 
Zechariah 12:1
 
So many times we are quick to judge. So many times we think we have all the answers. So many times we think if they would just do this…
I have found myself there as well. I have said my piece and made my assumptions and had my thoughts and concerns, but by the grace of God I am learning to pray instead of say.
The fact is all I can do is pull one moment of someone’s life out of context and try to interpret it according to my minuscule knowledge with only my own life experiences to compare and contrast against…
So I am thankful for the sovereignty of God and for the hope that knowing He is sovereign gives… the fact that I know His Word is true and that He is who He says He is HUGE!  
 
It is by faith that we accept His sovereignty. It is by grace and through faith that we begin to gain understanding of His sovereignty. The more we understand His sovereignty the better we are able to administer His grace… to others and to ourselves.  

MayDay! Have Kids. Need Help!

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I am currently reading through The Christian Parenting Handbook by Dr Scott Turansky and Dr Joanne Miller. These two are the founders of the National Center of Biblical Parenting. I have been following their ministry for over a year now. I have yet to come across any of their parenting tips and teachings that I have not found to be useful.

I am drawn to their heart approach to parenting.

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It seems the past few generations have been stuck somewhere between a behavior modification approach to parenting, an I just need to be their friend approach and allow them to express themselves, and a lack of parenting in general because they just don’t know what to do or have the time to figure it out.

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My only hope in my battle against this sin is Jesus Christ, my Savior and Redeemer. As the Spirit continues to use my parenting to reveal to me my sin, I am reminded anew of my great need for a Savior.

~ Christina Fox

The one thing that parenting has taught me is that my God has a lot of work to do on me… and I need His help desperately as I try to raise these beautiful gifts He has allowed my husband and me to shepherd.

I need Him to work on my heart and guide me as I work with Him on the hearts of my children… the last thing I want to do is work against Him.

I don’t won’t my children to just comply to my demands while they are in my presence and just sweetly nod there agreement on the outside while on the inside they plot their escape and deception.

I want to help my children see the true condition of their heart and see the grace of our God. I don’t want to guilt trip them into submission or emotionally manipulate them into compliance. I do not want to provoke my children to anger (Ephesians 6:4) or exasperate them so that they lose heart (Colossians 3:21), but I so desire to bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

This takes parenting with purpose.

The National Center of Biblical Parenting is here to help equip us parents to do just that. God has given us everything we need to know in His Word. Everything that we need to raise our children in love and godliness… and I am thankful that God gifts His children with certain passions so that they might help His body.

God has blessed Dr Turansky and Dr Miller with insight into this thing called parenting and He has blessed them with the ability to get this information to all of us… I suggest we take advantage of it.

Buy The Christian Parenting Handbook between April 29 and May 5 and get a package of free resources valued at more than $400.00. You can learn more on our website about the 8 items contained in the Bonus Parenting Package. In addition, you can get The Christian Parenting Handbook Companion Guide (This is a workbook with audio clips that will help you apply the material in The Christian Parenting Handbook.) for free if you purchase 5 copies or more of the book. Simply make your purchase from Amazon, Barnes and Noble, BAM (Books A Million), CBD or Parable.

To  claim your premium, simply forward your purchase confirmation to Gift@biblicalparenting.org and we will send you your special product code for the $400.00 package. If you purchased 5 or more copies of the book, we’ll send you the PDF version of the Companion Guide as well as the audio package.

Keep a watch on my blog… I will continue to post about this new book and will be offering some parenting tool free giveaways pretty soon… well as soon as I figure out how to do all that anyway… I have never done a giveaway campaign before, so bear with me 🙂

 

*** Disclaimer: I received a free advanced copy of this book as a member of their Launch Team. I am not required to share any information with you, and all comments and reviews are my honest opinion. You can trust me on this.