In Becoming a Woman of Encouragement and Influence (part 2) our last words were:

“These women were not to fight against each other, but for each other. They needed a hand stretched out to pull them up not push them further down. They didn’t need anyone to pick sides. They needed someone to bridge the gap. Beloved of God, we whose names are recorded in the book of life have been called to stand in the gap. We have been called to help.”

I searched for a man among them who would build up the wall and stand in the gap before Me for the land…

Ezekiel 22:30

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The Lord is for me among those who help me…

Psalm 118:7

Now the question is… how do we help?

When I think of where so many of us are… in that place of feeling overwhelmed, in that place of just flat out exhaustion, in that place of discouragement with our knees buckling right there on that brink of despair… my mind goes to a perfect little verse that is safely tucked away in the book of Isaiah.

Encourage the exhausted,

and strengthen the feeble.

Isaiah 35:3 (NASB)

So, the question again, how do we help?

We encourage and we strengthen. Now we must ask:

• How do we encourage?
• When do we encourage?
• Who do we encourage?

because wrong encouragement can be just as deadly as no encouragement at all. I think of Brittany Maynard when I say that, and the countless and faceless others who will now be “encouraged” by her choice.

As I attempted to dig a little deeper in this verse I began where I always begin, with a word search and digging into the Hebrew translation while keeping the scripture within context. I love word studies and cross-referencing the Word of God. Letting God tell us what He said, by what He said, is the best way to interpret His book.

The first time the word encourage is used in the NASB is in Deuteronomy 1:38

Joshua the son of Nun, who stands before you, he shall enter there; encourage him, for he will cause Israel to inherit it.

The Hebrew translation of the word encourage is

chazaq and it means

• be or grow firm or strong, strengthen, aid, amend, catch, cleave, confirm, be constant, constrain
• to fasten upon; hence, to seize, be strong
• figuratively, courageous, causatively strengthen, cure, help, repair, fortify

The first time this word for encourage is used in Scripture is in Genesis 19:16

But he hesitated. So the men seized his hand and the hand of his wife and the hands of his two daughters, for the compassion of the Lord was upon him; and they brought him out, and put him outside the city.

As I read this passage of Scripture in Genesis my mind went to the book of Jude…

And have mercy on some, who are doubting; save others, snatching them out of the fire; and on some have mercy with fear, hating even the garment polluted by the flesh.

Jude 1:22-23

…and I wondered if maybe the word used for snatching also meant to seize… I literally clapped with excitement in the middle of my living room floor when I discovered that it indeed did!

The Greek word used for snatching in this verse is harpazo and it means

catch, seize, take by force

I find this to be absolutely wonderful! Stay with me, and hopefully I will be able to explain why 🙂

Now after I learned this connection with Lot and Jude, I wondered when was the first time the word encourage was used in the New Testament. When I went to my word search, I discovered that according to the NASB the first time the word encourage is used is in Acts 11:23. The next thing I needed to do was find out what Greek word was used…

The Greek word used for encourage in Acts 11:23 is parakaleo and it means

to call to one’s side, call for, summon to address, speak to, (call to, call upon), which may be done in the way of exhortation, entreaty, comfort, instruction, etc. to admonish, exhort to beg, entreat, beseech to strive to appease by entreaty to console, to encourage and strengthen by consolation, to comfort to receive consolation, be comforted to encourage, strengthen exhorting and comforting and encouraging, to instruct, teach

My next move was to do a word search on this Greek word and I discovered the first time it was used was in Matthew 2:18. It was also used in Matthew 5:4, Luke 15:28, Jude 1:3, and many more. Now as I put this word search, this Hebrew and Greek defining, and cross-referencing all together I prayed and asked God to help me answer the how, why, when, and who’s of encouragement. This is what He taught me.

My dear sisters in Christ we are to:

Encourage with conviction:

• Then when he arrived and witnessed the grace of God, he rejoiced and began to encourage them all with resolute heart to remain true to the Lord; (Act 11:23)

The Greek word Parakaléō (“personally make a call”) refers to believers offering up evidence that stands up in God’s court. When we encourage we are not offering up empty meaningless words. We are to encourage with truth and fact and conviction. We are not to encourage when we don’t mean it, when we don’t believe it, when we have nothing to back it up or stand on.

I think of these poor people that try out for singing and talent shows and over in the wings are their parents and friends who have convinced them that they can sing and encouraged them to try out, and they are less than musically inclined and are humiliated before the world. That’s not encouragement. Real encouragement comes with proof in the pudding. Real encouragement repairs, it doesn’t destroy.

Let’s take a moment to go back to the Hebrew word chazaq, and what we know about the context of it’s use. In Genesis 19 God has sent word by angels that Lot needs to exit the city, but he hesitates. Now did the angels just stand there and say, “ahhhh come on Lot, you really should come?” No, they didn’t. They seized him by the hand. They encouraged with conviction. Look back at Jude 1:22-23, sisters we are to snatch. Sometimes encouragement is taking the bull by the horns and saying get up and come on!

You’ve got the teenager that all of a sudden doesn’t want to come to church anymore? Oh Momma, it’s time to seize and snatch. You’ve got that friend that is fighting depression and doesn’t want to leave the house? It’s time to seize and snatch. Oh sister, but notice that it was the COMPASSION and MERCY of God that seized and snatched. We are not to look at those that we know God has placed in our path and give a little kind word, and shrug our shoulders, and say, oh well I tried.

You have not tried anything until you have seized and snatched.

SEIZE AND SNATCH! If you believe in the wrath of God and the eternal damnation of hell, and the power of the gospel of Jesus Christ, for the glory of God, encourage with conviction and do so with compassion and mercy.

Encourage to comfort:

The world is hurting. People are hurting. Our encouragement should bring comfort. When we find someone who is weighed down with the things of this life, we are to do what we can to comfort them… even when they appear to refuse it.

• “A VOICE WAS HEARD IN RAMAH, WEEPING AND GREAT MOURNING, RACHEL WEEPING FOR HER CHILDREN; AND SHE REFUSED TO BE COMFORTED, BECAUSE THEY WERE NO MORE.” (Matthew 2:18)
• Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted. (Matthew 5:4)

We never know when what we have said or what we have done will sink in. Our words and our actions towards others should always be with grace (Colossians 4:6). We serve a God who gives perseverance and encouragement and His Word is meant to bring hope (Romans 15:4) and hope doesn’t disappoint. If it doesn’t disappoint then it doesn’t discourage and it doesn’t hurt. It instead comforts.

Encourage with passion:

• Beloved, while I was making every effort to write you about our common salvation, I felt the necessity to write to you appealing that you contend earnestly for the faith which was once for all handed down to the saints. (Jude 1:3)
• But he became angry and was not willing to go in; and his father came out and began pleading with him. (Luke 15:28)

I love this. Women of God we must encourage with passion. Look at these two verses. Here are two men who are making every effort, who are appealing, who are pleading, who are encouraging with passion. They are not concerned with whether or not they are loosing their dignity or their position of authority. They just want to see these before them encouraged so that they can continue to honor their God and walk out what God has called them to do and be.

Beloved, when was the last time you were willing to beg someone to Christ (2 Corinthians 5:20)? When have you wanted to see someone come out of their discouragement, their exhaustion, their false sense of reality, that you were willing to plead with them? When was the last time you were willing to make a fool of yourself in order to bring hope to another.

Sometimes, we just need somebody to take us by the hands and look us in our eyes and speak to our souls. The world is screaming lies into our hearts. We need more people who will speak the truth, and speak it in love (1 Corinthians 13:1). The roar of that woman of folly is loud and wisdom does not use a noisy gong or clanging cymbal that just deafens us even more.

Wisdom speaks up close and personal with a strong still small voice that calls to the deep within us to rise up and know hope, to be encouraged. To encourage with passion is not to scream in ears. No, to encourage with passion is to speak intently and intensely into a soul.

Encourage in person:

Lastly, and probably most importantly… we are to encourage in person. When we look at the Greek word for encourage we see that it comes

• (from pará, “from close-beside” and kaléō, “to call”) – properly, “make a call” from being “close-up and personal.”

which means

• I send for, summon, invite, I beseech, entreat, beg, I exhort, admonish, I comfort, encourage, console.

Did you get that?

Go back and look through all these cross-references on the word for encouragement. Whether its use be in the Old Testament or the New… they all involved someone up close and personal.

I encourage

Not I added them to the prayer list. Not I sent word to the pastor or the women’s director.

No.

I saw the need and I did something.

I was up close and personal. I was there to grab hold of their hands and drag them along because they hesitated, because they were blinded due to the fact that they were so close to the pits of hell that even their garments reeked of it. I was close enough to look them in the eyes and speak to their heart.

In Acts 4:36 we meet a man named Joseph, a man who was a Levite by birth, and yet the apostles named him Barnabas, which means Son of Encouragement. In Acts 9:27 we learn that it was Barnabas that took hold of Paul. He took hold of him. Barnabas did not cheer from the sidelines.

Encouragement isn’t simply cheerleading from the stands. No encouragement is when you pull someone up along side you. It’s not just when you get up in front of someone, but you get down in the trenches with them. It’s pulling them with you if need be… encouraging them all the way to the finish line.

 

 

So who do we encourage?

• We encourage the hesitating
• We encourage the doubting
• We encourage the hurting
• We encourage the pouting
• We encourage the stubborn
• We encourage the weary.

And why do we encourage?

Because our God is a God of encouragement and we ALL need encouraged. We encourage to repair and to fortify. Our encouragement should always repair not destroy.

And when do we encourage?

At all times.

And how do we encourage?

We encourage with conviction, to comfort, with passion, and in person.

Next time we will look at the next part of that beautiful verse in Isaiah… we look at how, when, where, who we strengthen.

Becoming a Woman of Encouragement and Influence (part 4)

Last week in my chapel time with my preschoolers we looked at Deborah. I have been taking our preschoolers through Hebrews 11 and teaching them about each of the heroes of the faith that God has listed for us in that chapter. As I taught through the list we came to Barak… and even though Deborah is not listed in Hebrews, you simply can’t share about Barak without sharing about Deborah, the woman that God had judging Israel, and the woman that God used to call out Barak.

As I was digging into the life of Deborah we learned that her name means “bee”. I learned that, and I thought, how fitting! So of course this led me into a little bit of research about bees… particularly the queen bee.

Sorry, I couldn’t help it 😉

Okay back to Scripture and real queen bees.

As I was doing a little internet research I read that the queen bee is “the heart and soul of the honey bee colony. She is the reason for nearly everything the rest of the colony does. The queen is the only bee without which the rest of the colony cannot survive. A good quality queen means a strong and productive hive.”

Deborah was like that queen bee in a hive as she strongly served God. I believe she also is a pretty good picture of our own little hives. The heart and soul of the home is so often determined by the wife and mother… and a good quality wife and mother means a strong and productive home.

An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, But she who shames him is like rottenness in his bones.

Proverbs 12:4

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House and wealth are an inheritance from fathers, But a prudent wife is from the Lord.

Proverbs 19:14

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An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels.

Proverbs 31:10

 

Another interesting thought on the queen bee is that, “although the name might imply it, a queen bee does not directly control the hive. Her sole function is to serve as the reproducer” Deborah was so great because she was not trying to control, she was instead allowing herself to be controlled by her God. She was a woman who was submitted to the will of God and stood confident in who He had created her to be. She had been called and she rose to the occasion and encouraged others to rise to theirs.

Oh what a difference it makes when we women are willing to submit our lives to the sovereign hand of our Savior!

As I shared with the kids about Deborah and Barak, I shared that they were super heroes to God because they were doing what God created them and called them to do. As we were still connecting Deborah with a queen bee, I showed the kids a little snippet of “The Bee Movie” and they saw what happens when we don’t do what God created us to do.

When the bees decided that they were done making honey and there was no queen bee to judge them, or leader to lead them, they all laid down and did nothing. When they did nothing, everything began to die… death reigns when those who have the ability to give and share life do nothing.

God created us to bring Him glory. When we choose to do what God created us to do then we bring glory to God and He uses us to bring life to the world.

Therefore be careful how you walk, not as unwise men but as wise, making the most of your time, because the days are evil. So then do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is.

Ephesians 5:15-17

I find it so very sad that we live in a world that is trying to convince us that being that queen bee in our hive is belittling to our womanhood. There is no greater responsibility and privilege in life than to be a woman who is willing to be the heart and soul of her home. A woman who is willing to validate her husband and unconditionally love and encourage her children. A woman who is willing to lay down her own life to give life to others.

In Becoming a Woman of Encouragement and Influence (part 1) we took a look into Proverbs 9 and dug into the characteristics and homes of two different women, one called wisdom and the other folly… We talked a little about how this woman folly is boisterous. How this woman folly desires to keep our souls in a state of discouragement… and because she is who she is… I am so very thankful for the woman of wisdom.

We live in a world of folly. We live in a world that is telling us we will never be enough. We will never be pretty enough. We will never have enough. We will never be smart enough. And if you are a wife and/or a mother, you live in a world where nothing is ever just done. The laundry is never done. The dishes are never done. The house is never clean… As soon as we think we have accomplished a task it seems like we turn around and there it is again. I am sure, if your life is like mine, you can say as the people in Judah said,

Thus in Judah it was said,

“The strength of the burden bearers is failing,


Yet there is much rubbish;


And we ourselves are unable


To rebuild the wall.”

Nehemiah 4:10

We can easily find ourselves not being able to see past the rubbish, not being able to see past our current circumstances. We can easily find ourselves overwhelmed, flat out exhausted, and discouraged.

That is why it is vital that we become women of encouragement and influence. When we read on in Nehemiah 4 we learn something pretty special. We learn what God showed Nehemiah to do for the people of Judah,

and I stationed the people in families with their swords, spears and bows. When I saw their fear, I rose and spoke to the nobles, the officials and the rest of the people: “Do not be afraid of them; remember the Lord who is great and awesome, and fight for your brothers, your sons, your daughters, your wives and your houses.”

Nehemiah 4:13-14

Nehemiah stationed the people in families and pointed them back to their God. The people needed to take their eyes off the rubbish, off their current circumstances and put them back on their great and awesome Lord. They needed to remember that they had no reason to fear because their God was with them. Instead of sinking in fear and discouragement, they needed to stand in faith, and defend their family, and fight for them and their houses.

Did you notice what the first thing was that Nehemiah did?

He stationed them by families.

Precious ones, God desires to station us by families. I believe that is why He gave us the church. A local church is built up of families. Families that are supposed to be watching each others backs. Families that are fighting for each other not against each other.

In the book of Philippians we meet a couple of ladies who were having a problem getting along…

I urge Euodia and I urge Syntyche to live in harmony in the Lord. Indeed, true companion, I ask you also to help these women who have shared my struggle in the cause of the gospel, together with Clement also and the rest of my fellow workers, whose names are in the book of life.

Philippians 4:2-3

These two ladies were believers. They were faithful believers. They had struggled with Paul in the cause of the gospel. They loved God, they loved His Son, and they loved His church… but for some reason they were having a hard time loving one another. Paul’s charge to the church was to help these women.

These women were not to fight against each other… but for each other. They needed a hand stretched out to pull them up… not push them further down. They didn’t need anyone to pick sides. They needed someone to bridge the gap. Beloved of God, we whose names are recorded in the book of life have been called to stand in the gap… we have been called to help.

I searched for a man among them who would build up the wall and stand in the gap before Me for the land…

Ezekiel 22:30

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The Lord is for me among those who help me…

Psalm 118:7

Now the question is… how do we help?

We will dig into that next time.

 Becoming a Woman of Encouragement and Influence (part 3)

A few weeks ago I shared a message at a ladies event. The message was Becoming a Woman of Encouragement and Influence. Verbally I managed to share it within the forty-five minute time slot, but writing it, now that would exceed even my normal word count. Therefore, we’ll look at it in parts. We begin with Proverbs 9…

In Proverbs 9 we meet two women that represent two different houses, two different paths. As we read through Proverbs 9 I believe it is divided into three sections. The first section, Proverbs 9:1-6 introduces us to one woman, one house, and one path. The third section, Proverbs 9:13-18 introduces us to another woman, another house, and another path. The second section, Proverbs 9:7-12, I believe represents the fork in the road between the two, and how we receive Proverbs 9:7-12 determines the path we will walk, the house we will enter, and the woman to whom we will listen.

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Let’s meet the first woman… her name is Wisdom.

Wisdom has built her house,
She has hewn out her seven pillars;
She has prepared her food, she has mixed her wine;
She has also set her table;
She has sent out her maidens, she calls
From the tops of the heights of the city:
“Whoever is naive, let him turn in here!”
To him who lacks understanding she says,
“Come, eat of my food
And drink of the wine I have mixed.
“Forsake your folly and live,
And proceed in the way of understanding.”

Proverbs 9:1-6

What I want you to see is that this woman wisdom has her stuff together. Notice that she has built her house. Notice that she has hewn out her seven pillars. Think with me for a moment… what is the purpose of pillars?

Pillars provide stability and strength. If we look at the ruins of ancient societies, even if the house has fallen, the pillars remain. This woman wisdom has built a strong, stable home.

Let’s keep looking.

Notice the work of this woman wisdom, she has prepared her food, she has mixed her wine, she has set her table, she has sent out her maidens. She calls out. This woman is able. This woman is strong. This woman is prepared. This woman is saying, Hey whatever you need, come and see me. Bring your tired, weary, hungry, thirsty self in here to my house and let me help you. I have everything that you need and I have the ability to teach you to have this for yourself. See here are my maidens, I provided for them, and they were fully equipped to be sent out, and to find you… I will fully equip you so that you might go and do likewise… become a maiden of mine and become a woman of wisdom. Let me teach you. Listen to me. 

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Now let’s take a look see at our other woman… her name is Folly.

The woman of folly is boisterous,
She is naive and knows nothing.
She sits at the doorway of her house,
On a seat by the high places of the city,
Calling to those who pass by,
Who are making their paths straight:
“Whoever is naive, let him turn in here,”
And to him who lacks understanding she says,
“Stolen water is sweet;
And bread eaten in secret is pleasant.”
But he does not know that the dead are there,
That her guests are in the depths of Sheol.

Proverbs 9:13-18

The first thing we learn about this woman of folly is that she is boisterous. Now this word boisterous in the original language is pretty darn interesting. In the Hebrew this word is hamah and it means,

• To murmur, growl, roar
• To murmur a soul into discouragement
• To growl like a dog
• To roar as in to keep a city in an uproar

This woman folly is not there to encourage or strengthen anyone. As a matter of fact she is what I like to call a pot-stirrer. She is here to murmur and growl and roar and to keep everyone around her in turmoil. She has no desire to calm a soul, to encourage a soul, to strengthen a soul… no… she simply desires to murmur that soul into discouragement. She has no desire to share peace and hope and stability. No, she wants us off-guard, off kilter, confused, confounded, bewildered, stressed out beyond the ability to reason for ourselves.

(Hmmm…. does this sound anything like our current media and/or political strategies)

Notice what we learn next. This woman is naive and knows nothing. Notice that this woman sits. She sits at her doorway on a seat by the high places of the city. She sits and is calling out to those who are passing by… she sits. She is NOT building her house. She is NOT hewing out pillars. She is NOT preparing food, mixing wine, or setting a table. She has NO maidens to send out. She doesn’t even get up to go and seek… she sits like a spider waiting for those who pass her by so that she can catch them in her web of destruction.

Here is the kicker. Let’s look side by side what these two woman call out…

Both of these woman call out the same words.

“Whoever is naive, let him turn in here,”
And to him who lacks understanding she says,

Proverbs 9:4,16

Yet the heart, and the purpose, behind the words are completely opposite. The woman wisdom calls out to the naive and to those who lack understanding to come into her house so that she might provide them with what she herself has prepared. She calls out to them to strengthen and encourage and feed and equip so that she might give them the tools to become someone of wisdom and stability themselves in order to seek and help others. The woman wisdom seeks those who need her. She sends out for those who are naive and lack understanding so that she might teach them and give them wisdom.

On the other hand, this woman folly, she has nothing to give. She is looking for the naive and those who lack understanding so that she can bring them into her house and take from them whatever they have for herself. She seeks the naive so that she might devour them in their naiveté.

She is an Ursala…

 

The woman wisdom cries out for us to forsake folly and live… she wants to give us life.

The woman folly, has stolen all she has, and has nothing to offer us but death.

The question we have to ask ourselves… if they are calling out the same words… both offering food and drink… how are we to know who is Folly and who is Wisdom?

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Here is where Proverbs 9:7-12 comes in. The fork in the road.

He who corrects a scoffer gets dishonor for himself,
And he who reproves a wicked man gets insults for himself.
Do not reprove a scoffer, or he will hate you,
Reprove a wise man and he will love you.
Give instruction to a wise man and he will be still wiser,
Teach a righteous man and he will increase his learning.
The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom,
And the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.
For by me your days will be multiplied,
And years of life will be added to you.
If you are wise, you are wise for yourself,
And if you scoff, you alone will bear it.

Precious one, are you willing to take rebuke?

Are you willing to hear that you are wrong?

Are you willing to receive correction?

Are you willing to submit your will to the Word of God?

This and this alone will determine whose doorway we willingly turn into… this alone will determine what path we will take… this alone will determine whether we ourselves become a woman of wisdom or a woman of folly. Beloved, let us turn to wisdom.

 Becoming a Woman of Encouragement and Influence (part 2)

 according to my earnest expectation and hope, that I will not be put to shame in anything, but that with all boldness, Christ will even now, as always, be exalted in my body,whether by life or by death.

Philippians 1:20

I keep waiting for the headline that reads in bold… SHE CHANGED HER MIND!

However, now I fear that all the hype of the event might lead her to follow through… despite her small smidgen of doubt that I know is there.

What is living?

As I type this my wrists and my forearms are swollen and bulging with inflammation and the blood veins in my hands and arms feel as if they are drawing up inside of me as they seem to grow before my eyes and I watch knots build up in my hands and up my arms and into my shoulders and neck and both my legs have gone to sleep and yet ache at the same time while my veins crawl inside the calves of my legs and stinging electric like shock shoots into my hips… and for this there is no cure.

At least once every week my youngest daughter asks me if my hands are going to turn in like the pictures she sees at the doctor and all I can say is I don’t know…

Yet at the same time, my Dad is fighting lung cancer… my sister-in-law is fighting liver cancer… and my father-in-law is fighting bladder cancer… and my dear friend is fighting ovarian cancer… and I have a hard time complaining about my non-life threatening quirky aches and pains.

Just tonight we went to visit with my in-laws. My father-in-law got up to go to bed and my youngest ran into the hall to hug him. She turned around with the biggest smile and said, “I got a stand up hug!” It has been seven months since she got a stand up hug from her Papaw… and she knew it.

A year ago this month, one of my childhood friends received her healing in eternity. Melanoma took her into the presence of the Lord. When my friend’s Pastor asked her how she wanted him to pray, she said “Pray that God will allow me to live every day that I am supposed to…” 

I watched my friend grow worse with each visit. I also watched her son crawl up in his mother’s lap and pat the the side of her face that held a growing tumor and smile as he said something about it to his mother and saw her smile at him the best that she could. Would it have been less physically painful for her, less emotionally stressful for the family had she chosen to die before the treatments took her hair and the tumors grew outside of her jaw? Perhaps. But had she done that… she would have missed so many hugs… so many smiles… so many prayers.

Her family would have missed that many more laughs… In one of my visits with her she was making jokes about her mother trying to force miralax down in her so her bowels would move and she just flat out was not going to drink anymore of the nasty stuff. She was with us, all of us until the end. The depth of who she was never left her, cancer couldn’t destroy the intrinsic value of the beautiful uniquely wonderfully and fearfully made soul that God created.

My sister-in-law was first diagnosed with breast cancer. She beat it. Then she was diagnosed with colon cancer. She beat it… to return for a routine follow up scan to discover that she now had liver cancer. That was thirty-five months ago. She could give up. She could. But instead she has chosen to believe that each day that she is given by God is a gift. Each day brings a possibility that a cure could be found. Each day brings the possibility that the next scan shows that the cancer is gone. Each day brings the possibility that someone will make her smile. Each day brings the possibility that God will use her to make someone else smile. Each day is another day that she makes a memory. Each day is a day that she has to glorify her God.

My Daddy fights. I am so glad that he fights. This past weekend we went to the mountains. My girls got to have their picture made with their Papaw Wayne at the same tree that I had my picture made with him many times. They got to hug him. They got to laugh with him. They got to make memories. The last PET scan revealed the cancer was gone in his lower back and was dying every else in his body. What if when my Daddy got the prognosis that the cancer had spread from his collar bone to his tailbone he decided to say it’s everywhere and there’s no hope? THERE IS ALWAYS HOPE!

For whatever was written in earlier times was written for our instruction, so that through perseverance and the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope.

Romans 15:4

What is living?

Is living supposed to be pain and trouble free or it’s not worth it? Is living only living if we don’t have to depend on the help and strength of others? Is living only living if we look young and beautiful and have all of our faculties about us?

This is what I don’t understand… the “supporting” family. I am jealous for every single moment of time that God will give me. I am jealous for every hug, for every smile, for every offhanded remark, for every possibility of a sunrise. I am holding on to the hope that a cure is around the corner, that Christ is on the brink of return, that the doctors, SHOCKING I KNOW, might, just might, be wrong. They are not God after all.

There are times that I sit and curl up next to my husband… he doesn’t have to say a word or do a thing… I just want to feel the warmth of his body next to mine and lay my head against the rise and fall of his chest as he breathes and weave my fingers in between his… because his very presence is important to me. There is no way, I tell you NO WAY, that I would look at him, still appearingly in pretty good health regardless of what disease lay ready to destroy him within and say, Yes baby, just go ahead and go on now. I don’t need any of those weak feeble smiles and I sure have no desire to actually fulfill that “in sickness” part of those vows. I mean really, we’ll be fine. See you on the other side one day. 

NO!

There is no way. I would be on my knees begging him to reconsider. BEGGING HIM for one more day, just one more hug, just one more kiss, just one more time to lay down beside him and feel the warmth of his body against mine.

If this was my child… it’s unimaginable. There is no way I could set a date for her death. Why not simply say, let’s just deal with today… let’s not worry about tomorrow. Today let’s live. And tomorrow, if we awake, it is now a new today, and today we will live and we will love. Today.

 But we have this treasure in earthen vessels, so that the surpassing greatness of the power will be of God and not from ourselves; we are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not despairing; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed; always carrying about in the body the dying of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus also may be manifested in our body. For we who live are constantly being delivered over to death for Jesus’ sake, so that the life of Jesus also may be manifested in our mortal flesh. So death works in us, but life in you.

2 Corinthians 4:7-12

You pushed me violently so that I was falling,
But the Lord helped me.
The Lord is my strength and song,
And He has become my salvation.

Psalm 118:13-14

I don’t know about you, but I have been in seasons when the world has pushed me violently… I have been in a place, more than once, that I found myself falling because the circumstances of life were doing all they could do to push me down.

But… the Lord helped me.

That’s one thing that the circumstances of life do not consider when they push you violently so that you are falling… the Lord can even be found face down on the ground in the pit of rock bottom.

From my distress I called upon the Lord;
The Lord answered me and set me in a large place.

Psalm 118:5

Tonight I will be sharing at a women’s event. The message that the Lord has given me is one of encouragement. Sadly, we seem to have come to a place in our day, where those who are called by the name of Christ get more fired up about condemning than encouraging.

The posts that go viral are the ones with the mom’s degrading the preteen girl who is posting less than modest selfies on social media… or the one’s that use sarcasm to prove a point (and I am pretty sure if I looked through my own blog, I would find myself having written those sarcasmy posts as well)

Let me tell you what I see when I see a preteen or even teen girl posting immodest pics… I see a young girl who has never had a father who hugged her tight and told her that she was beautiful… inside and out. I see a girl who is starving for someone to tell her she has worth and value and that she is absolutely stunning.

There is a reason that even a grown woman when she gets ready asks, how does this look? She doesn’t want to know if it matches… she just wants to know if you, the one she has asked, thinks that she looks beautiful. I don’t know if men understand the level of vulnerability that is there when a woman asks that simple question, that has become a punchline in so many comedic circles.

This past Thursday, my husband and I, along with our middle daughter attended his company crew party where we had the honor to hear John Croyle share about a ministry that he and his wife started many years ago, Big Oak Ranch. As he shared he made a huge point… well he made many huge points, I could have listened to him for hours longer (and in case you want to know more about him and this ministry I have added it to my blog as a highly recommended ministry to support).

One of the points was that that there are two things every girl and every boy wants to know.

Every girl wants to know 1) that she is loved, no matter how bad she screws up, she wants to know if she is still her Daddy’s little girl, 2) and she wants to know that she is pretty, does someone think she is beautiful?

Every boy wants to know 1) am I loved, and 2) do I measure up? John shared that there is a reason that little boys want to wrestle with there Daddy all. the. time. There is a reason they ask how am I doing. There is a reason they say, hey watch this.

We live in a world today that tries to convince us that we will never measure up. We live in a world today that tries to convince us that we will never be pretty enough. We live in a world that is doing all it can to strip us of our identity and value… a world that is pushing us violently so that we are falling.

And to often those who are called by the name of Christ are right there to make the final push instead of reaching out to help. I think we have forgotten something very important…

The Lord is for me among those who help me;

Psalm 118:7

Let that sink in.

The Lord is for me among those who help me.

Beloved, when was the last time you helped someone? I don’t mean sent a check to an organization that helps. I mean you, with your hands, with your feet, with your words… when was the last time that you helped?

Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him…

Genesis 2:18

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I will ask the Father, and He will give you another Helper, that He may be with you forever;

John 14:6

We are on this earth for a purpose. You have a purpose… and that purpose is not to get all you can out of this life… your purpose is to give life, to give help, to share the love of Christ with others…

But the earth helped the woman, and the earth opened its mouth and drank up the river which the dragon poured out of his mouth.

Revelation 12:16

That slippery serpent, that nasty dragon, that evil one does not need our help in making a way for his river of vile condemnation and deception to pour out upon the souls of others… the world is hurting… people are hurting… precious ones… Let. Us. Be. Help.

Blessed is the one who comes in the name of the Lord;
We have blessed you from the house of the Lord.
The Lord is God, and He has given us light;

Psalm 118:26-27

Let us come from the house of the Lord with light and with hope and with help. Let us shine life into the darkness of the hearts of those that God places in our path… let us speak words of truth with grace and love. Let us never forget that others will only discover that the Lord is for them when we who know Him choose to help them… not ignore them… or hurt them more.

I have shared about my Dad on my blog several times before. I share about him a lot because I got a good one. I was blessed with a Dad that believed in me, with a Dad who never told me I “couldn’t” do anything because I was girl. I was taught the exact opposite. I was taught there was nothing I couldn’t do if I put my mind to it, whether it be the first female United States President, a Supreme Court judge, driving a tractor, or pulling a trailer full of round bails of hay, or riding a bull.

My Daddy believed in me.

I remember being in 3rd grade and telling my Daddy that I wanted to play basketball. Well that next year, he took me right down and signed me up to play. I was one of two girls that signed up. That meant I could play, but I would be the only girl on the team.

 

There I am. Front row, wearing that #2 jersey. It was my first year to play, not only did I play with all boys, but none of those boys went to my school. I was the only girl and I didn’t know any of them, but I played. Terrified. But I played… and I learned.

The next year my Daddy took it upon himself to sign up to coach and I guess he got to spreading the word, because this year there was enough girls that signed up that we had the first all girls team in Hartselle Alabama rec basketball. We had to play the boys, but we had a team.

The following year my Daddy got on the phone with the Morgan County Park and Rec and he was able to get our Hartselle girls basketball team into the county so that we could play against other girls. To this day the Hartselle girls continue to play in the Morgan County circuit… thanks to a Daddy who believed in his daughters.

As anyone who follows my blog knows, my Daddy was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer this past May. He has been undergoing chemo since then. Today, we wait for the next PET scan to see if the imaging reflects what the blood work has been saying… and that’s that the tumors are shrinking and dying.

I really wanted to do something in honor of my Daddy just for being the amazing man that he is. I am not sure if the ladies who played or are playing in Hartselle, Alabama have a clue what my Daddy did to fight for your equality in the Hartselle community league athletics program. He fought hard with others (Joe Berry and Ronald Wallace to name a couple) to build up the softball program and he started the basketball program.

So really I am just curious… if you are a woman and have played softball or basketball in the city of Hartselle would you share this post and hashtag #Iplayed #teamwayne

I would love to see how many “daughters” got the opportunity to dream of slam dunks and home runs because my Daddy wasn’t a man who said, “girls can’t” but instead said, “heck yeh, girls can!”

My Daddy went home to be with his Lord on May 2, 2015. He has experienced the highest healing possible as he stepped out of this fallen world and this decaying body and into the arms of His Savior.

When He broke the second seal, I heard the second living creature saying, “Come.” And another, a red horse, went out; and to him who sat on it, it was granted to take peace from the earth, and that men would slay one another; and a great sword was given to him.

Revelation 6:3-4

As I was sitting one afternoon talking with my parents the conversation turned to where we are in our world today. I shared with my parents that it was easy to convince yourself that things were possibly not that bad (as in end times bad) when we looked at our own little place in this world.

When you are living within a moment you don’t realize how much things are changing or the depth of that change. It’s kind of like when your kids go from baby to preteen in a year…

When it’s happening before you a little bit every day the change slips right on by you. It’s not until you take the time to step back and look at it from a distance and with an objective perspective that you are shocked by how much change has taken place right under your nose.

Our world has changed and is changing.

Being a 37 year old woman I often wonder whether things are really as bad as they appear or is it just that I pay more attention now. I can ponder how scary the world is becoming, yet I also know that it could be much worse… or is it just that I have become desensitized with the rest of the world as sin gradually and effectively rots away the core of society. The destruction of the family, kids killing kids, unrest growing all over the world even within the borders of our own nation. These were the thoughts I was pondering last week… and today the headlines read of the beheading of a woman in Oklahoma.

Man Beheads Woman Stabs Another

As I read the article my mind immediately went to the book of Revelation:

When He broke the second seal, I heard the second living creature saying, “Come.” And another, a red horse, went out; and to him who sat on it, it was granted to take peace from the earth, and that men would slay one another; and a great sword was given to him.

Revelation 6:3-4

Now I am not about to get into a pre-trib, mid-trib, post-trib discussion… to me that is all irrelevant. All that is relevant is that I believe that Jesus is the Christ and He is my personal Lord and Savior. As to how long He delays His coming or as to how much suffering I will face as His before He calls me home… that’s in His hands regardless of my or anyone else’s tribulation opinion.

All I know is that Jesus said birth pangs would let us know that the time was drawing close (Matthew 24) and well the contractions are coming pretty darn close together and they are indeed growing harder and stronger.

When we look at the verse in the book of Revelation we see that it was granted this one that rides in on this red horse to take peace from the earth. This word for peace is eiréné and it means peace of mind, a state of national tranquility; exemption from the rage and havoc of war

I don’t know about you but I don’t see a world that is filled with people who have peace of mind. I shared with my parents and my husband again tonight that I never go anywhere in a public crowded place that I do not set a mental plan in place as to what I would do and where I would go should something crazy happen. Attending an event with peace of mind is virtually non existent. I am no where near living in fear… but I am living in be alert and ready.

Notice what was given the rider… a sword. But not the long soldier sword. This sword in the Greek is machaira and it means máχaira – properly, a slaughter-knife; a short sword or dagger mainly used for stabbing; (figuratively) an instrument for exacting retribution.

In our recent day, does this not sound familiar?

Then they will deliver you to tribulation, and will kill you, and you will be hated by all nations because of My name. At that time many will fall away and will betray one another and hate one another. Many false prophets will arise and will mislead many. Because lawlessness is increased, most people’s love will grow cold. But the one who endures to the end, he will be saved. This gospel of the kingdom shall be preached in the whole world as a testimony to all the nations, and then the end will come.

Matthew 24:9-14

My husband scrolled through my newsfeed yesterday and laughed and commented that people must be wondering about my mental state because my posts are all over the place, I am in wildernesses, climbing mountains, starting over, and all kind of mess. As he said this I thought to myself, well if you think my posts are all over the place you should try taking a look at the stuff that is actually scrolling through this head of mine. The newsfeed ain’t nothin’ compared to the full fledge real thing.

I never claimed to be sane… ever.

As I walk through my wilderness and I continue to seek the face of my Heavenly Father I am amazed at His grace for me. I am also overwhelmed at how He is slowly revealing the things that got me here so that I can name it, process it, deal with it, delete it, and move on.

Brethren, I do not regard myself as having laid hold of it yet; but one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.

Philippians 3:13-14

The simple truth is that Satan has been watching me for a while and he knows what works to blind me, confuse me, and hurt me. He knows how to get me to that place of inward turning and churning. The worst part about it is the way you can somewhat sense it is him, but at the same time the way in which he works his cloud of chaos can so get us off balance that we can’t see clearly for just trying to see anything at all.

As I work through my Priscilla Shirer study and my David Jeremiah study and continue to dig into the book of John the Lord is helping me find my footing once again. He is stilling the the rocking and nerve wracking and bringing clarity to my confusion.

He has reminded me of the weaknesses that once again Satan has been able to use to trip me up and has given me once again a lesson in sword sharpening. Once again feelings of inadequacy, guilt, and my desire to people-please has led me straight into the chains of discouragement.

As I have been digging into the book of Nehemiah the Lord opened my eyes to where the d-darts of the devil began to shoot and when my defenses had finally been worn down to the point that his fiery arrows were able to find their mark.

Thus in Judah it was said, “The strength of the burden bearers is failing, yet there is much rubbish; and we ourselves are unable to rebuild the wall.”

Nehemiah 4:10

I am a task oriented person, and a perfectionist, and a forward thinker. Things must be moving forward. Accomplishments must be being made. Lasting accomplishments. I must be able to walk back in and breathe and say, ahhhh it’s done. Things must be done right, when asked, or really just forget it and I’ll do it myself. I don’t handle ruts, traffic jams, or inconsideration well at all. I ask very little of others and when that very little gets ignored I lose trust and faith in that person and will not ask anything of them again.

Thus the fiery darts of inadequacy, guilt, and people-pleasing work wonderfully to lead me into discouragement and I find myself unable to see anything but the rubbish before me and after trying to remove it alone for so long my strength fails and I realize I cannot do it… inadequacy hits, guilt from inadequacy hits, and the realization that I must not be pleasing the people or they would help, encourage, listen, care, etc… hits. The arrow of discouragement hits its mark and I am now closely walking on the edge of despair… therefore emergency shut down begins.

I went into emergency shut down… When we find ourselves in ESD the only thing that can open us up is the Word of God. In case of emergency… dial 119!

Psalm 119 that is. Go straight to the Word.

Simon Peter answered Him, “Lord, to whom shall we go? You have words of eternal life.

John 6:68

I have realized that discouragement can disguise itself and it can slowly creep in on you… it begins with disappointments. We can get through a little disappointment… usually.

Disappointment can be like a tree  limb that has fallen across your path or a stone that has rolled off the side of the mountain and fell in your way. One tree limb and one stone at a time can easily be maneuvered around, or through, or even moved, but when that limb becomes a whole tree or that one stone becomes a landslide… then disappointment becomes discouragement.

Disappointments are going to come. We can do nothing about it. Jesus never held any punches with us that tribulation WILL come.

In the world you have tribulation…

~ Jesus (John 16:33)

However, what I love about Jesus’ point blank in our face, hey honey tribulation is comin’ is that He nestles this fact right in between two other very important promises…

These things I have spoken to you, so that in Me you may have peace. In the world you have tribulation, but take courage; I have overcome the world.

John 16:33

There it is. Tribulation. Tucked right in between peace and courage. When we find ourselves in the midst of disappointments, smack dab in the muck of tribulation… it’s time to look back to our Peace.

Therefore, having been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom also we have obtained our introduction by faith into this grace in which we stand; and we exult in hope of the glory of God. And not only this, but we also exult in our tribulations, knowing that tribulation brings about perseverance; and perseverance, proven character; and proven character, hope; and hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out within our hearts through the Holy Spirit who was given to us.

Romans 5:1-5

As we look back at our Peace… then even in the midst of our tribulation we can then look forward to courage… remembering that He has overcome the world! We have hope… and hope DOES NOT disappoint.

Here’s a message by Charles Stanley, Overcoming Discouragement 

An just in case the fiery darts that hit you and wound are the same as the one’s that easily wound me, those of inadequacy, guilt, and people-pleasing. Here are some verses to memorize so that you can place a healing balm on those wounds…

Inadequacy:

Not that we are adequate in ourselves to consider anything as coming from ourselves, but our adequacy is from God, who also made us adequate as servants of a new covenant, not of the letter but of the Spirit; for the letter kills, but the Spirit gives life.

(2 Corinthians 3:5-6)

Guilt:

Therefore there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.

(Romans 8:1)

People-pleasing:

so that you will walk in a manner worthy of the Lord, to please Him in all respects, bearing fruit in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God;

(Colossians 1:10)

but just as we have been approved by God to be entrusted with the gospel, so we speak, not as pleasing men, but God who examines our hearts.

(1 Thessalonians 2:4)

The Lord is King forever and ever;

Nations have perished from His land.

O Lord, You have heard the desire of the humble;

You will strengthen their heart, You will incline Your ear

To vindicate the orphan and the oppressed,

So that man who is of the earth will no longer cause terror.

Psalm 10:16-18

For me one of the greatest miracles of God is going to be experienced in eternity. The fact that He is going to be able to wipe away every tear and heal every hurt. The fact that we will be able to spend eternity peacefully and joyfully and whole with others who have cut us to the bone in this life amazes me. I wonder, if like as Christ, we will wear our scars for all eternity. Will we finally be able to see how these wounds were in relation to suffering with our Savior? Will we be able to see which scars really were the brand marks of Christ and which ones were just the effects of a sinful, stupid, and selfish world. Will we see how this pain brought glory to the One who died for our sin and the One who sent Him to die on our behalf?

Or will we simply rest in the sovereign truth that the only scars that matter are the ones in the hands and feet and side of our Savior.

Yes… I believe so…

His scars are the only ones that will matter in eternity… because His heal all of ours. We will stand before Him without spot and blemish… as we bow face down in worship in adoration at his nail scared feet.

I don’t question why pain and hurt come. For me that’s obvious. We are dying and our world is dying. The more the world rejects our Creator the more the presence of sin reigns. Apart from God sin abounds. Only His grace is sufficient to surpass it. Denial of that grace leaves us under the condemnation of sin and under the terror of man.

Only God is greater.

“Do not let your heart be troubled; believe in God, believe also in Me.”

John 14:1

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“If Your law had not been my delight, then I would have perished in my affliction.”

Psalm 119:92

Anytime we discount the grace of God, any time we discount the Law of God we will find ourselves sinking in the mire.  Anytime we find ourselves placing trust in man… we will eventually be disappointed or hurt. Jesus knew that better than anyone…

“But Jesus, on His part, was not entrusting Himself to them, for He knew all men, and because He did not need anyone to testify concerning man, for He Himself knew what was in man.”

John 2:23-25

So how do we move past this… how do I move past this? I have been here before. Actually, I have lost count on how many times I have been here within this very same context and others. Somehow God restored and God redeemed. So I will wait. I will trust Him to once again work a miracle in the depths of my soul and cleanse my mind and purify my heart with the washing of His Word. I know He will accomplish it. He always has before…

My gut reaction wants to clean sweep and walk away… just let it go. Shake the dust off my feet and all that, but I know my God and He will not allow this cycle to continue or this tape to keep replaying in my mind. He will indeed save me from myself. I just can’t quite see how. I was blind before and He gave me sight, so somehow, someway, He will do it again. He promises that if we seek Him, He will let us find Him. He promises that by His stripes we are healed and He promises that if we go boldly to His throne of grace we will find mercy and we can’t go boldly if we don’t go truthfully.

I feel like I am starting all over again. So it’s a good thing that I serve a God of do-overs and try agains and clean slates and rewrites. And I know that in all of this there is a lesson for me… to give me more compassion, empathy, sympathy, humility, mercy, grace, and hope. Somehow God will, is using this, to conform me more and more into the image of His Son. Teaching me how to think with this mind of Christ that He has given me in Him. His mind struggles against my mind. My thoughts with His thoughts. Thank God greater is He!

In my inbox this morning came a word from Mr Swindoll…

“The only thing we can be thankful for when it comes to blowing it is that nobody keeps a record of ours. Or do they? Or do you with others?

Come on, ease off. If our perfect Lord is gracious enough to take our worst, our ugliest, our most boring, our least successful, our leaning-tower failures, our Edsel flops, and forgive them, burying them in the depths of the sea, then it’s high time we give each other a break.

In fact, He promises full acceptance along with full forgiveness in print for all to read . . . without an erratum sheet attached. Isn’t that encouraging? Can’t we be that type of encourager to one another? After all, imperfection is one of the few things we still have in common. It links us close together in the same family!

So then, whenever one of us blows it and we can’t hide it, how about a little support from those who haven’t been caught yet?

Oops, correction. How about a lot of support?”

A reminder today that every one blows it… I know I have countless times.

And then a word from the Word…

“Your testimonies are wonderful;

Therefore my soul observes them.

The unfolding of Your words gives light;

It gives understanding to the simple.

I opened my mouth wide and panted,

For I longed for Your commandments.

Turn to me and be gracious to me,

After Your manner with those who love Your name.

Establish my footsteps in Your word,

And do not let any iniquity have dominion over me.

Redeem me from the oppression of man,

That I may keep Your precepts.

Make Your face shine upon Your servant,

And teach me Your statutes.”

Psalm 119:129-135

His grace will find me… and I will find oceans of His grace. Feet fail, but faith does not.