Say My Name

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Now on the first day of the week 

Mary Magdalene came early to the tomb,

while it was still dark,

and saw the stone already taken away from the tomb. 

John 20:1

Destiny’s Child had a song called, Say My Name. The lyrics went, “say my name, say my name, you actin kinda shady ain’t callin’ me baby, why the sudden change… if you ain’t runnin games… say my name, say my name

There is something quite powerful about someone saying our name. Destiny’s Child sings about it. Shakespeare wrote plays about it. Dale Carnegie teaches techniques to help leaders learn people’s names because it is so important for success in business and really for life in general.

Your name is important.

Your name is used to get your attention and your name is used to show that you have someone’s attention…

Mary returns to the tomb… what does she see but the stone rolled away. Of course her first thought is that they had taken His body… those Pharisees… the council… Rome.

How could they?

Was the Friday torture not enough?

Would they destroy His dead lifeless body as well?

Could they really be that cruel?

Mary knew that yes… they could. She had lived in the perversions of man. She knew the depths of which they could steep. Now she turns and she runs to find Peter and John. I find it interesting that she ran to Peter and John. I believe she knew she could trust these men to do something… what she might not know… but they would do something.

The men entered the tomb to investigate. Jesus was gone. The tomb was indeed empty, they held His grave cloths in their hand… at a loss… a complete loss. What was going on? I can see the two men looking at one another shaking their heads… trying to work out in their minds what they should do next. However, not knowing what to do, not yet understanding the Scriptures, they just went home.

But not Mary.

Mary stayed at the tomb. She is after all a woman. Mary would need a good cry. It was time for a meltdown moment. She would need to fall to the ground and place her hands over her head and weep until her nose was red and running and her face soaked with salty tears, that poured so thick out of her eyes that they ran down her cheek and down her neck and soaked the veil that hung around her shoulders.

She had stayed and watched it all. She had been there when they laid Him in the tomb. She had came early to be near Him in the only way she knew how… and He was gone.

Yes, it was time for a meltdown.

Then she’s interrupted. She looks up through red-eyed, tear-blurred vision and doesn’t even question where these men came from… there is after all no telling how long she had been heaving these sobs. She speaks to these men, hoping they can tell her something… and then she turns:

When she had said this,

she turned around and saw Jesus standing there,

and did not know that it was Jesus.

John 20:14

He was there!

Right there!

Right there in front of her, yet she did know it was Him.

In that day it will be said to Jerusalem:
“Do not be afraid, O Zion;
Do not let your hands fall limp.
“The Lord your God is in your midst,
A victorious warrior.
He will exult over you with joy,
He will be quiet in His love,
He will rejoice over you with shouts of joy.

Zephaniah 3:16-17

Right there in her midst… How many of us have Him right here in our midst yet we do not see Him. But when He said her name… she recognized Him. There is indeed something quite powerful in someone saying our name.

I was the first on the scene of a vehicle accident about fifteen years ago. I actually witnessed it happen, should have been involved in it, but by God’s grace was spared. I was sitting in a side parking lot in one vehicle, talking to my mother and grandmother who were in another. As we sat and talked we saw the car pull out and we saw the diesel truck top the hill…

We knew it was coming but could do nothing.

The truck slamed into the car as he tried to stop and somehow instead of continuing in the direction straight toward our vehicles, he manages to turn the wheel and send his truck, that was now attached to this car, into a tree on the other side of the road.

I jumped out of my vehicle and ran to the car expecting to see death, I couldn’t tell if there was a pulse or not, I couldn’t tell if there was breathing or not… I saw the young woman’s purse and grabbed it trying to find out who she was. I saw that her name was Katie…

The moment I addressed her by her name her eyes shot open and she began moaning and crying…

She lived.

There is something powerful in knowing that someone knows our name. There is a reason people want to see their name in lights on a stage. There is a reason people want to see their name in the paper. There is a reason we do play bulletins with the cast and character list. There is a reason that hand out football programs. There is a reason we announce the player as they go up to bat. There is a reason it matters that someone knows our name.

I remember well the moment that Jesus said my name… I thought He had forsaken me. I thought He would never want me. I thought He was far from me… but the moment He said my name I could see that He had been there with me all along. I was just too caught up in my own meltdown to see Him.

Precious one, I don’t know where you are today… I don’t know if you can see Him or not… but trust me, He is in your midst… He knows your name.

What’s Your Definition of Love

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In about two weeks I will be going through a Family Life program based for preteens with my preteen daughter and also other mom’s and dad’s with their preteen sons and daughters. The program is designed for a one on one weekend, but I have decided to tweek it to make it work for a parent/preteen lock-in weekend. Sometimes its easier for parents to discuss the “hard” issues with their kids when they see it being addressed by other parents…

In order to set a schedule for the weekend I had to scan through the all the material. Let me share with you that I am so excited about what I heard. I truly recommend this curriculum getaway for parents to experience with their kids. I recommend you begin it with them at the first sign of a pimple or the first question about sex… believe me if they have finally gotten curious enough to ask about it out loud, then it’s already been on their mind for a while.

The weekend will close on a session about dating. Too many times “dating” just sneaks up on a parent. There has been no plan made, no boundaries established, and then all of a sudden that first school dance shows up…

What?

In elementary school now?

Yes, in elementary school…

So is your child ready? Do they know what is appropriate where? Do they know how far is too far? Do they have firm, assured, united boundaries in place so that they will know how to respond… not just react.

The question really is, what is your child’s definition of love?

In the curriculum’s dating session a young man shares his story. He shares how he and his sixteen year old best friend, the best friend that went to church with him all their lives, the best friend that experienced the silver ring thing, the true love waits stuff, and the youth pastors messages on sex outside of the marriage covenant. The best friend that the two of them made a pact together that they would remain pure for their wives… yes that one.

He shared how they were out one night and the best friend told him how he and his girlfriend had actually rented a hotel room and had sex. The sixteen year old best friend shared the news and expected the young man to slap him on the back with a locker room “way to go” but that’s not what he got. The young man was angry and he let his best friend know that he was angry.

The best friend responded that he and his girlfriend loved each other and they had decided this was the right time for them to express their love to one another and if he ever really fell in love he would understand and he was sorry that “his morals” didn’t agree with him. The young man looked at his friend and asked, “my morals? my morals? these were OUR morals!” 

Several years later… and several girlfriends later, now in college, the best friend called the young man to announce his engagement to the latest girlfriend and how in love he was with her… but the young man said he gave his congratulations with halfheartedness because his mind was still on their friend from high school… the girl his best friend supposedly so loved then.

The young man then shared about a newlywed couple that he had met at church… they had picked him up and they were on their way somewhere, both men up front, the young bride in the back… and the young man shared how they couldn’t keep their hands or glances of each other. The driver reaching in the back, the bride reaching up front, so they could hold hands from front seat to back… and the young man asked the question… did they wait?

This couple had waited. They had waited on each other. Then when they were together and in love they waited for each other. The young man asked if it was hard to wait? And the couple exclaimed, Well yes the desire was there, but no it wasn’t a struggle. They loved each other and the best way they knew to show their love for one another was to protect one another. Their first kiss was at the altar, the most they did was hold hands…

This young man had known two couples who both used the same word love, to explain what motivated them to act in completely opposite ways. One couple used the word love to justify taking advantage of each others bodies before marriage, the other used it to justify protecting one another’s bodies until marriage. For one, love was impatient and demanded compromise, for the other love built integrity and gave them the patience they needed to wait.

So the question again… what is your definition of love? How do you display love to your child? Do you give in and compromise with them? Or do you show them love through standing firm on the boundaries set for them?

What is your child’s definition of love?

Let me encourage you today to sit down with your child and find out…